Hi I have a meeting tomorrow with SS. Should have posted here sooner tbh but this not a normal type of post here and I know lots of you MN's know a lot about law/rights of person with asd etc
not a yr ago ds 6 asd disclosed physical abuse from df to his 1:1's. Ds tried to tell us all before but never had the language, but returned headbutting/aggressive from visits etc
It was reported to SW straight away who said ds safe as doesn't see df anymore (df decided didn't want to see ds....possibly because ds started to say things like df feeding ds milk/hamburgers etc). Ds would come back bowels in awful state, face breaking out in viral type spots and headbutting and aggressive. All classic symptoms before gfcf diet started.
SW basically did not believe the 1:1, me or ds!
I even had one disclosure on mobile phone (it was week of father day and ds constantly reminded of df with adverts etc) so told 1:1 to get evidence straight from ds via recording. After this disclosure I felt I had no choice but to go to police as SW (for DP's did nothing.
Police came out eventually to interview ds and told to come to police station next day for ds to be filmed as going ahead with case as ds language and comprehension well enough to be counted in court of law.
We arrived the next day and police just dropped case like hot potato after speaking for 5 minutes on phone to SW...who said I was angry that ex didn't pay maintenance and it was basically my way of getting back at ex!?
I tried to complain and detective boss said CPS decided (weeks ago) because ds had Autism he was not a reliable witness and it was so long ago...sadly ds memory to good and detail amazing his a real negative as ds has never forgotten...but doesn't mention it anymore as ?flashbacks have stopped now (plus no help for ds I was told I had to help heal him and in time hopefully ds will forget). Also why did detective interview ds and ask me to come with ds next day to be interviewed if CPS said it was no good? It was clear the SW influenced the polices decision to stop investigation.
So I have meeting tomorrow with SS to complain about SW and how such 'judgemental views' stopped ds from having a voice as ds wanted to tell the police at that point. I will bring the written statements and voice recording that SW wasn't interested in seeing...and ask SS manager why did SW not act and influence the police.
Does Autism = Nonverbal in more ways than one?
It does not matter if our dc can talk or communicate as they are not listened to anyway:(
Any advice on meeting tomorrow...re law on anything etc
I have no fight left in me to complain and SS only close ranks when you complain!