Firstly I'd like to say thankyou to everyone that has helped with advice and just listening over the last year. I flitter in and out of this forum very quickly but you need to know all your help is appreciated and I wouldn't cope without you all, so 
I appear to be in a game with the school that I was hoping wouldn't happen. I tried the softly factual approach but I have a sly member of staff!
I need to step up a few levels and work my way down if I have any chance of beating them.
I need to learn all there is to know about SENCO/School, what they have to do or not re IEPs, school work, assessments, motor/social groups & therapies, Statements.
Is all this information within the SEN CoP or do I need to go further and read other books/papers?
Who do I go to when these things aren't being done as they should and what is the esculation chain? I'm in belief I won't get the support I'm after from the HT!
Many thanks :)