Some help and advice would be great please

[Hai1988]

Hi Everyone

please bare with me as I try to explain my situation the best I can.

I have A DS who is 6.4 years old, Since about 3ish years old I would say this behaviour has been going on and before a thought oh well maybe this is just him being himself or its just general "child behaviour" so Did nothing about this but now its becoming all to obvious.

A few things I have noticed are he will
go on and on about a subject until it takes over the conservation and will repeat himself until he is heard.

Also he will act silly in a group to get attention,

play too roughly in the playground and hurt other children, (teacher has mentioned this)

cannot wait for his or her turn,
constantly interrupts others,
Has poor attention to detail and makes careless mistakes in school work, and have trouble finishing work (teacher has commented on this)

Does not appear to listen when spoken to directly,
is easily distracted,

Is forgetful like we will be talking about what happened at school and he says he has forgot what he did, or if he is told of he I will then after time out will ask why he was put on time out and he will not know,

Flit from one thing to another and not concentrate on any one thing for very long ( even as far back as nursery mentioned this)
He can sit at the computer or play his Nintendo for long times but that seems to be the only things that Will keep him quiet for more than a few minutes, he rarely watches a film from start to finish.

There all the things that came of the top of my head at the moment, don't want to make the post to long so will shut up now.

If you want to know any more details please feel free to ask.

Hope someone here could offer some advice maybe if your child is showing the same sort of things, any help would be greatly appreciated.

If you are worried ask your GP to refer him to a Paediatrician who specialises in this sort of thing. You could also ask the school to refer you to an Educational Psychologist. It sounds as though it could be ADHD but not necessarily.

My DD has all those symptoms too. She has ADHD and dyspraxia. We had to pay privately for a DX as she is so young.
Agree with Jandy though ask for a referral to an ADHD specialist your DS can then be assessed. We currently have chosen not to go down the medication route but instead have introduced a healthy eating plan and vitamin/ mineral supplements and Omega 3 and 6. There is lots of helpful info on here about doing that especially from Indigo Blue.

Indigo BELL even not blue

Oh I was kinda hoping no one was gonna mention ADHD, my SIL has this and I know how hard bring a child with this condition is, obviously this has been in the back of my mind, but think this is why I have always played down DS's behaviour in the past, but when it was brought up at school and affected school work Its when i thought right something has to be done now.

I completely understand about the medication side because I'd hate to think my child would have to rely on medication for his in tire childhood, but on the other hand understand in cases where is would be necessary

I know i shouldnt have but i didnt know what dyspraxia was so i google it,
DS does show quite a few signs of this such as balance, he has never be able to get the hang of riding a bike and even straggles with his scooter, he struggles running keeping up with his school friends when playing ect..

Think I may go back to the doctors maybe see another GP, Should I go alone to discuss this without DS or take DS with me ?

Your ds sounds a lot like mine, he has an ASD, but does not have ADHD. His concentration is poor and he flits between things unless it's something or a subject he loves. He will play his ds and ps3 all day if I let him and talks endlessly about star wars or doctor who. He can be very silly but this is down to his lack of maturity and the fact that he doesn't know how to behave appropriately in social situations. He can be rough too when playing and he doesn't know his own strength. Theres more but I'm beginning to ramble

when I go back to the GP Should I go alone to discuss this without DS or take DS with me ?

I would go alone initially. You can focus properly on what you want to say without worrying about ds hearing. I hated going to meetings and talking about ds while he was in the room, it's easier now as he knows he's autistic and even asked his paediatrician a few of his own questions at the last visit

You don't need to take DS with you.

Ok thanks will try and make an appointment when the surgery opens after lunch

You just need to express all your concerns and want to know what to do next. For us it was a visit from the educational phsycologist (sp?), then a referral to see the paediatrician, then lots of follow ups while they investigated, ending with the diagnosis, it took 18 months all in.

Ok thanks this is gonna be hard as I find it hard to put things into words, which is why I think he fobed me off last time cus he didnt have a clue what I was on about

Me too, I struggle to say what I mean so try writing it all down, do it over a few days as I always remember more things once I start. Write down what you've put in these posts first, and also ask his teacher if she has any input.

Hiya just thought I'd give you all a little update,

I thought it best to phone a health visitor rather than my gp as the HV has more experience with children so may be able to help more, she said that yes it may be a good idea to have DS assessed and have given me a number for the local school nurses.
I have never heard or had any dealings with them before so I hope It goes ok, I have left a message and hope some1 gets back to me shortly.

Thanks for the update, hopefully you'll get some good advice from the school nurse