Where's my little girl gone?! I can't get through to her atall!

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Morning all

It's as simple as that really. My dd (5) is more than likely on the spectrum and her issues are mainly with her social skills. Random and out of context speech paterns and she struggles to keep friendships going. She's always been bouncy and twirly, but recently it's none stop and i'm finding it really hard to cope with.

I know many of you have so much more to cope with on a daily basis, so I do feel quite silly for even posting. It's just that I feel like i'm gradually losing her. Her good points are being masked by all her "odd" behaviour recently and she's starting to really stand out. We went out for dinner at the weekend for the first time in ages.............i'd forgotten why it had been so long. She wouldn't stop singing at the top of her voice and waving her arms around. She talked about completely random things and was constantly quoting from films at one point. She can't just sit and eat her meal, she has to have a bag full of toys and plenty of paper and crayons. She draws constantly and she does have a talent for it, but sometimes it hits me like a brick that she's acting so strangly. I can't seem to have a conversation with her anymore and it really hurts, because at one point she was coming on so much with her social and communication skills. They seem to be evaporating now though.

I've had her on Omega 3 for the last couple of weeks, but if anything i've noticed that she's become more dreamy, grumpy and fidgity. That makes absolutely no sense to me. I didn't necessarily think they were going to make a huge difference, but I wasn't expecting this. It could, of course, be a coinsidence, but i'm not sure whether to keep going with them or possibly switch and just stop them all together.

Feeling so low and deflated today. Dropped her off at school and it was like I wasn't there. She ran off on the way and didn't listen when I shouted her to stop. Even when I said goodbye she just looked at the door and waved goodbye with this strange look on her face. I feel like there's a piece of her missing. I just don't understand how or why everything seems to be getting worse.

Any advice or just comforting words much appreciated

Thanks for reading.

I think you need to trust your instincts. I didn't with my DS and listened to everyone saying he will grow out of it. Now paying price for not having earlier intervention advice or help. DS is on meds now for v bad anxiety having just started secondary and I feel guilty for not doing more.

Thanks everyone! Really appreciate all your posts.

I'm taking it all on board. flow, i'm sorry that you're feeling guilty and that your son is having a rough time. I don't think we ever feel like we've done the right thing from the day they're born do we.

I have a parents evening coming up in a week or so, so i'll have another chat to see if their opinions have changed, but i'm pretty sure i'm going to the GP again regardlesss.

Dd's had a good couple of days. Like a different girl actually. Feel like i've got her back. She's not babbling, not bouncing constantly and just generally being well behaved and kind. The negative to that though is that I know or worry that it wont last long.

I hope i'm wrong.

Hi detox so sorry to hear you are having worries about your DD, I hope you get the answers soon.

Just thought I'd post to say that I know how you are feeling about the Partner thing.

At the moment I am also currently trying to get answers about my DS, he is showing lots of symptoms of adhd and dyspraxia and my DH is having none of it, says he fine just him being himself.

I think he is in denial and doesn't want to think he may have these problems as he grew up with a sister with adha and knows how hard it can be.

Hope you can get you OH to support you in your quest for a dx or not may the case be

Take care

Sorry to read you are so worried. From experience though the fact that you are not comfortable with her behaviour is a red flag. something is telling you that maybe this isn't just the normal odd phases children sometimes go through. It might be worth keeping written record to take to GP so you can remember the facts of her behaviour. It's so hard though I know coz you just keep hoping its just a funny phase. MN has been great support for us though and lots of posters have been very helpful too. reminding us we are not the only ones who have been through years of trying to get Dc probs recognised. It's an all too common story. Do what you feel is right for your DD. good luck x