Homework battles

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Ds is in Yr7,no dx but loads of Asperger traits and has sm with over 20 hours of support. Have had to relocate almost 200 miles away from family and this has obviously unsettled him and he is currently on a part-time timetable (PSP) as school have been finding him difficult to manage. He has to do more homework than at previous school and there are daily battles with getting him to do any work (says that home is for rest and school is for work). When he does start to do some he says he can't understand what is needed and either gives up or rushes it and it is all messy. Also will often leave it until the last minute and then be in tears or really stressed and angry. He is going through puberty as well so I know this is likely to make things worse but it's causing no end of problems at home . Any tips/ideas?

My son is yr7 and has statement for aspergers. He is in mainstream school with 1:1 support.

Change is always a huge issue and causes stress which is why he is unsettled and school are finding it difficult. I would talk to school about reducing or removing any homework for now until he's got to grips with new school. No point being stressed during day AND at home. He needs a safe haven to wind down and it won't do either of you any good to be battling at home.

Little steps like mastering timetable, packing bag, getting to and from school, homework will follow in time.

Is the school approachable? I have an e mail contact with my DS key worker TA which as proved invaluable for messages, news etc

Our homework routine is start around 5pm so DS has chance to wind down straight after school (usually x box with neighbours son!) then timer set for an hour to complete home works set. Math English science okay it's drama and art homeworks that he doesn't see point of that are challenging but he sits in kitchen whilst I cook tea so I can help him if needed. Once hours up that's it, messy or rushed its done, bag packed and evening starts. Lots of visuals helps, computer, books, timetable etc.

Hope helps.

I help a lot with DS2's homework. He has HF ASD in Y7 with a 20 hour statement. If there is a lot of writing, I type as he dictates, or he writes/types and I help. If I help, I make a note on the H/W 'supported work,' if I don't need to help I note 'independent work.' I want him to get used to the idea of doing h/w regularly and on time and get the most from the learning involved, but if it's not fairly stress free, there's no point doing it IMO. DS2 is sort of average, academically, set 1 for maths, 3 for science, 4 for English and humanities, 5 for art and music!

Also I have just got him a Papermate erasable pen. So proper ballpoint but it can be rubbed out like a pencil soon after writing and becomes permanent after a day or so. Has helped loads with presentation at school and home. We also use the PC if possible. I print out the work and stick it in his book. He handwrites mostly at school, but there has been no problem typing h/w. DS finds it less stressful at home but prefers to be like everyone else at school.