Is it just me or do you also find that people often have no clue.....

[Triggles]

I saw this elsewhere on MN and found it an odd comment.

"One boy in dd's class was always late. He used to play dad up badly once mum left in the morning and was always late. The school referred him to the Ed Psyc and he was diagnosed with adhd and since then has never been late."

Now, personally I find it hard to believe that they got a diagnosis and then POW everything is okay.

I find the anecdotal stuff we see on threads to be really naive sometimes. Or perhaps that's just me. It just hits home to me how many people really don't understand SNs very much.

Yes, and I have seen a lot worse than that too :(

Oh. I see what you mean.

Yes. It annoys me to, but SN happens in a mythical land doesn't it, rules by the daily mail.

I did have to do a bit of explaining in order to educate a friend of mine yesterday regarding the SS that we're hoping DS2 will go to next year. She was worried that "in a school where everyone else has the same problems as DS2, won't he just get worse?" I presume she was thinking along the lines of "no NT kids to show him the right way to act" I suppose. I don't really know. I took the time to explain it a bit better, so I think she understands now.

It's funny, because this same friend literally flamed a bus driver that was a bit snotty to me about DS2 being in his pushchair (maclaren major) on the bus. She flat out told him I wasn't collapsing the pushchair as there was a wheelchair space available and DS2 was disabled, so he had every right to remain in the chair and be there. (I was having a truly bad day, so she stepped in before I even realised what was going on)

But it's frustrating. I do get tired of having to explain constantly. I absolutely do not like (and generally refuse) to offer up excuses or explanations for DS2's behaviour in public.

People seem to think disabled = wheelchair, that autism means they are supposed to be sitting in a corner rocking, and that ADHD doesn't really exist as it's just poor parenting and naughty children.

sigh

That sort of comment about schools is pretty amusing really as it shows a complete lack of understanding.

I had it from people too and ended up having to explain that autistic people are probably the group most likely to not give two hoots about role-models and what other people are doing

It's also an argument used by LEAs as justification for pushing for the cheaper option mainstream so I was quite glad that DS fits that profile (as not all autistic children will) They didn't quite know how to counter that.

Think i might have actually said that about ss myself,however in my defence although DS is severly autistic he DOES copy what i was class as other people undesireable behaviour .
So it wasnt really a silly statement in my eyes

Course not - I was generalising. DS can be a great mimic himself but he doesn't really understand the social implications of what he's doing. He has NT models in his home and family situation and it was one of my concerns too until I really thought about whether he was affected by them or not.

It's going to impact on all children differently but it's so commonly used as blanket statement that it annoys me sometimes. Don't want a MS / SS debate not that I've ever seen any on this board but there's enough going on in AIBU to make me paranoid these days

I never understand why LA's get away with that argument to be honest.

'The child needs to be amongst his NT peers to learn from their behaviour how to socialise, - and he can't have a 1:1 as that will interfere with peer interaction'.

Do these people even READ the diagnositic criteria for ASD? If it is possible for a child to do the above, they'd never get a frigging diagnosis.

Just to make you smile winter i stayed up late last night reading the "people who get to school late thread" and i was feeling quite grrrr cos mornings are tetchy in this house but im a stickler for punctuality.
But oh the irony cos we all slept in this morning

Ha ha

I'm on that thread. I rarely have problems getting DS ready for the bus myself but then I do have a lot of time to organise it due to his three or four a.m wake-ups

I saw that thread too, I am one of the people fighting my way against the flow of people coming out of school in the morning.

I get all sorts of looks and comments from people.

However, at the school they open the doors at 8.45 and close them at 8.55 so I deliberatly aim to arrive towards 8.55 as there is no queueing or pushing and shoving, no crowds of people in the cloakroom.

Dd3 has been happier than ever going in to school in this way so I am going to carry on, she is always in in time for the register and the cats bum faces can shove it as far as I am concerned.

Of course I didn't waste my time trying to explain this on the other thread, whats the point, most of them are probably the cats bum faces I walk past every morning.

DS' MS pre-school were fab and let me bring him in ten minutes later and collect him ten minutes earlier, so no waiting, no crowds and no cat's bum faces because they had all sodded off first thing and hadn't arrived when I picked him up.

Shame more schools can't cope with that sort of arrangement really, in fact if DS was in MS I'd probably suggest he went in through the office entrance and was registered there.