Daughter slapped in face today by bully twice. Is it unreasonable to ask that the bully be excluded from mainstream seniors.

[daisysue2]

Hi my 11 year old de was slapped to by class bully. Twice. She is I. Mainstream supported by a statement of 28 hours. The bully is a friend of hers from primary who turns on whichever girls she doesn't like that week. This is the bottoms set bully realised she had gone too far and burst into tears. And tried to blame my dd but have had it from one Other girl already that she did slap her in the face twice.

School called me to say there had been an incident but didn't tell me what just said have a chat wIth dd when she gets home. She burst intO tears and told me there had been some pushing the girl slapped her twice she's too scared to go to school tomorrow.

We are going in with her and going to demand to ser year head as I have tried to get through to school but no ones returned my call.

Anyway help and advice on what you think legally the school should do. There is a history of bullying in this and previous school. Any advice legally would be good as I can't access school bullying policy on line.

Very sorry to hear this.

my take on it is that you have a right to insist that the schools deals with this and solves the problem so that your dd can feel safe

but that you do not have the right to dictate to them as to how they are to solve the problem

you should carry on pushing for a meeting and insisting on seeing their anti-bullying policy

I have had a couple of instances of dcs being knocked down or insulted because of disabilities. In each case the school has dealt with the incidence very effectively= the bullying has stopped and never started up again

but as far as I am aware there have been no expulsions

can't say I care greatly: the main thing is, whatever they did worked

The school has a duty of care for the pupils' safety and must deal with this. IME (of a similar incident at my child's special school) there is not automatic exclusion.

I would agree with Cory's suggestions. In my daughter's case the other child was taken out of lessons for the rest of the day and wrote a letter saying sorry. The other parents were informed and did keep their child off school for the next few days as there had been a family bereavement which had been the trigger.

Thanks everyone yes will take that into account that I can't dictate, but I am worrying about the duty of care to my daughter and what they will do to ensure her safety.

Yes go in and make sure they are taking appropriate action but tread carefully you might not have all the facts - I speak from experience and am not trying to upset you. Also don't assume they aren't dealing with it. Personally I would phone and make a proper appointment to discuss it. Then say how concerned and upset you are and ask what action the school is going to take. Don't assume they will automatically exclude the other girl. Alsi if you say they are'friends', think about how you might handle it if your daughter and the other child make friends and go back to playing with one another in a matter of days. I remember a situation where parents insisted that children were to be kept apart / protected in corridors from each other only to find children out playing together at playtimes through choice!

daisysue

You have already been given good advice from the other posters and I hope this is helpful.

If you go in there all guns blazing they will not want to know. You need to be calm and collected when you meet with them and listen first then ask questions.
They will not automatically exclude the bully in such cases; the process of excluding any child is long and protracted and is often seen by school as the last resort.

With regards to the secondary school I would subsequently write a letter to them asking for your child and X the bully to be placed in not just different classes but on completely different sides of the school. A friend of mine did this and her request was heeded by them due mainly to long and painful history of bullying.