I am trying very hard not to stress but.......

[AtYourCervix]

My plan to not stress about DD2 and school. I am NOT going to shout. I am NOT going to fight.

She said yesterday she was going to go in today but by this morning had changed her mind.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRGGGGGH.

Must not stress must not stress must not stress must not stress.

Have you thought about one of those online schools like interhigh?

Where she has timetabled lessons via skype every morning.

I don't see how it can be worse than what you've got now..... :(

What does she do at home that 'isn't school'. Could you make it really boring.

Perhaps say that everyone has to do something productive with their time so she should clean out the cupboards and re-stack them with everything in useby date order from the back to the front or something, or the books or CDs or whatever.

BTW, I just realised that I was a school refuser. Except the school didn't give shit and my parents were at work so didn't know.

Only just realised, - although I suppose not having any qualifications below my degree is probably a big clue.

she went in a bit last week. to the lessons she wanted to. and that ois how it is going to be for a while.

i am just impatient though.

did school ever phone you back the other week? I remember you were waiting ages for a call.

passes large glass of to Cervix

similar situation here, except dd has panic attacks and bad pain attacks brought on by stressing about going into school

and is then not in a state to do anything at home

it requires [teeth gritted] a lot of patience

dd does go in for exams if they are big set exams

but has developed a total mental block about the French oral

School finally rang back (after more than a week of me nagging them daily) and tried to blame me so I shouted at him. Then went in for a meeting where he was much nicer. They were ok. The plan is to let her do what lessons she can get in to, for now..... I got the impression they'd rather she just went somewhere else so it's not their problem any more (they suggested a different school or home edding her - neither of which is practical when both parents work silly hours).

It does take patience not to nag or push her. I struggle with that bit.

Me too, Cervix, me too.

I spent hours yesterday, throughout the night and this morning buoying dd up so she could manage to go in and take her biology exam, she was feeling so sick and in so much pain she could hardly spell her name, they had to send her straight home as soon as the exam finished. She hasn't really attended school for the last two months and is now on Prozac which is adding nausea to the mix.

But I'm perfectly calm. Perfeeeectly calm. Perrrrfeeec...

so yesterday she went for the afternoon and was completely orrible all evening. very stressed, upset, argumentative and sad.

so i haven't even mentioned it this morning and i was looking forward to a bit of a nap (not sleeping well).

but she has just appeared in her uniform and asked for a lift in.

sorry that tickled me!

She's starting this new horsey thing tomorrow. could go either way.