Normal 2yr old behaviour? Or something more?

[BackToB4Beatrice]

Thanks for advice in advance!
DD is 2.5 years. I'm possibly over reacting, maybe because I am think that I possibly have undiagnosed/very mild dyspraxia/aspergers. Or at very least show many symptoms.

DD, is social, seems bright, and seems to communicate well enough.
She knows ALL her animals plus noises, knows many colours including shades (black and White), knows numbers 1-10, and is doing some very simple counting. The things that worry me are;

80% of the time she does not use a true pincer grip. She uses her thumb and middle finger.

She frequently swaps between writing with her left and right hand.

She often does not follow instructions (put toys away, put coat on). Does seem to follow instructions when there is something to gain (put your shoes on and we will go to the park)

Sometimes I have to call her name 4 or 5 times to get her to look at me. Sometimes she doesn't even look until I touch her on the arm.

I find myself saying DD LISTEN. Not in a shouty way, but I seem to have to emphasise the LISTEN.

She shows empathy, but sometimes it seems "false".

She also has NO fear in physical things/capabilities. She would happily launch from the middle of the stairs/ dinning table. I don't just mean boisterous, I mean seriously seems to lack judgement in regards to safety. She is physically capable and is not "clumsy".

My own "symptoms" include all the social problems listed as dyspraxia symptoms, struggle to tell left from right, can vary between disorganised and"flakey" to obsessive and compulsive. I also am directionally challenged (!) and sometimes lack empathy, or at the very least struggle to show it.

Am I being paranoid? Or do you think there is something to think about?

TIA

Beatrice x

Have you had her hearing tested?

There could be something mild going on, or it could be nothing.

I think it's normal not to have decided on a dominant hand yet. And I think it's normal not to be good with a pincer grip yet. But those are both certainly things that need to develop.

Does she go to nursery? Do they, or anyone else, have concerns?

I think you should certainly kep an eye on all those things mentioned, and take her for a hearing test, but I'd probably wait a bit before going to the GP about develop,ent concerns. If only because you want it to be obvious to the professionals there's a problem.

Unless you or her are really struggling to cope, and you need more support right now.

Thanks for the reply.

Didn't think of hearing test, that would explain the the "DD Listen!".

She actually had the pincer grip at around 7/8 months (maybe, can't remember that far back) but I remember she had it as she was BLW and was using it for that. However she now seems to have lost/changed it. She picks very small things up just fine. But it's thumb and middle finger.

We are not struggling at all, and she is not at nursery at all.

Sometimes I think I'm being ridiculous, thinking that there is something wrong with my perfect DD. But on the other hand, I have struggled massively, at school and in later life, and have no dx, I'm now happy and comfortable in my life/world, but remember that isolated/lost feeling so clear, I don't want her to feel that way also.

Thanks

I really don't think you're being ridiculous.

I really think there might be something wrong. Not necessarily from what you've said her - but because youve posted at all.

I just think because she is so young, and her difficulties aren't very obvious, you'll be better off waiting about a year to see what shes like then.

And also till she's at nursery. Sometimes that makes difficulties more obvious.

nothing you have said screams ASD or other sn i know about but because your worried i think you need to check it out, parents are rarely wrong ime.