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Tips for successful toilet training needed for DS aged 4.5

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dietstartstmoz · 19/01/2012 21:47

Please help and inspire me to have yet another go at toilet training. DS is ASD, in mainstream primary, fully statemented, has speech, understanding, but is still in nappies. Has no interest whatsoever in giving these up. I am just debating whether to have another go at it on feb half term, and he and I spend 9 days (inc wkends) in the house, trying to get him to be successful. We have books, social stories, pants, an older brother but DS can't make the next leap. He will wee on the loo, not scared of sitting on the seat, but its the poo problem, and he cannot tell us he needs to 'go'. He will wee when we take him to the loo but can't say independently 'I need a wee', although he could repeat the phrase back to you a thousand times. He usually poos 4 times a day, after meals but he he is so active he will not sit still long enough on the loo and wont try. He is happy to stay sitting in his own poo in his nappy, he will deny he has done it, and would probably stay sitting in it for hrs if we let him.
I need top tips please?? I can't decide if to have a crap feb half term or wait until easter and have a crap easter! What a choice but no one has a magic answer, it's just up to us as parents to do this isn't it?

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dietstartstmoz · 25/01/2012 22:13

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Anyone? Bribery? blackmail-we have tried but how to move on-keep the heating on and keep him semi-naked? He may be more aware of the wee/poo then?
All ideas gratefully received

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WilsonFrickett · 25/01/2012 22:39

Bribery all the way. And just putting him on the loo loads with books. We just stayed in for a week and gave it a bash. I would go for it in Feb, if it doesn't work then you stop and try again in April, IYSWIM.

Get the nappy off and let him poo in his pants? It's quite a different sensation and might help to teach him that he doesn't like it. (buy a lot of cheap pants and just bin them like!)

I think it's just patience, patience, patience. And he just might not be ready, you know?

AllTheGoodNamesAreUsed · 27/01/2012 00:58

We trained a reluctant DD by lying to her.

DD desperately wanted a hideous pink horse from toys r us.

Whilst she waited with dad I approached an assistant and asked if the shop was open until 10 (I knew it closed at 9).

DD saw shop assistant shaking his head and talking to me.

I went back to DD and said I was really sorry but the shop only sells pink horses to girls who wear pants. (Written down I feel really heartless now but we were convinced she could use the loo, she was being stubborn).

A week later DD was back getting her horse and showing a confused check out assistant her knickers.

Maybe you could find a similar incentive for DS?

WarmAndFuzzy · 27/01/2012 02:34

We had a similar thing with DS2 (ASD), and took him to a clinic when he was 4.5 where they just told us to leave off the nappies and put him on the loo before and after each meal and at regular intervals through the day. We also bribed him with marbles which he could swap for (small) toys when he had 10. He did seem to catch on pretty quickly that going to the loo was a good thing, and now, at 5.5 he's dry both night and day (the night's a recent thing and was a whole different problem!).

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