If looks could kill!

[SparkleRainbow]

I know I need to be this into context and I have far more worrying things to deal with for ds than this, but I had to vent somewhere as I have got myself very worked up about this today.

Ds goes to a fantastic supportive ms school, where they meet his physical needs so well. One of the many things they have done is allocated a disabled parking space for us in the staff car park, so we can get him in easily. So why do some parents, who despite being asked not to (nothing to do with me) park in the staff car park, hidden round the corner where the office can't see them and give me horrible horrible looks for parking in the disabled spot. There is plenty of parking outside school, most parents respect this boundary, these few are choosing not to, which is nothing to do with me. So why do I have to run the gauntlet of disapproval every morning and afternoon. I know so trivial but I am actually really upset by this, I am beginning to feel panicky as I approach the school gates. Don't they realise what we would all give not to have to have these special arrangements.

They honestly have no understanding of your day to day life so are jealous of what they see as an undeserved "perk". There are a suprising number of otherwise rational middle class parents that are jealous of the kid with the TA as they see it as your child getiing extra "attention" over theirs. Very few people "get" the reality of dsability unless they themselves are personally impacted.

"forgive them for they know not what they do".

The looks were probably a mix of jealousy because you have a parking space allocated for you and therefore you have special treatment. This warrants a full up and down eye scan on mother and child to confirm why you need it mixed with a "dare you to grass on me go on" look.

I get the same looks when the TA meets DS and the up and down scans because there is nothing obviously wrong from the outside and so he is either a child from hell who shouldnt be near their kids or is taking up TA time that their kids dont get. I just stare back and dare them to ask...............they of course never do but my ears burn from the playground gossips.

Ignore them they cant help acting ignorant.

school parking can bring out the very worst in people, ignore it's not worth the effort to do anything else. I used to live opposite a school, the air was frequently blue with raised voices over who had parked where and why and from other residents who'd been blocked on/off their drive because god forbid a parent might have to walk from a space a hundred yards up the road, why not just park over someones drive and leave your car there. It was insane, there was no shortage of parking.

Any 'perks' can be met with jealousy. My DS got to choose which secondary school he went to because of his statement. Some people were not generous in their opinions of that! So, would they like to swap? I'll have a NT child in the local underachieving comp, they can have a child with SN, who may never be independent, in a slightly better comp, with a much better SEN dept. No takers?

Some people are just stupid, ignore them

Thank you everyone, I know you are all right I should shrug it off but it is really getting to me at the moment. Ds had a medical emergency yesterday, just after I posted, so wasn't an issue yesterday afternoon, but he wants to go back in today, against my better judgement, so will run the guantlet this morning, and try to think of your wise words.

SP

Oh god! some people are just

you know you have the right to park there, as does the school.

you know your son needs that space, as does the school.

Next time, smile brightly and wish them all a cheery "Good morning!" (whilst secretly plotting their untinely demise of course!)

Must work on my air hostess smile. Was ok this morning, think at least one of the families was brought by their dad today who parked on the street.