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TOTU · 15/01/2012 18:26

I've had it today. Really HAD IT! I don't post often so I'll summarise (3 kids, 2 boys GDD, v prob ASD in one, sight problems. 1 NT daughter. Single parent. Ex-h not been seen or heard of for the best part of 6 weeks. We don't speak at all). Sons are 7, daughter is 8.

I'll begin:

  • My elderly mother has the kids for a couple of hours on a Sunday but today she rang me up after 1.5 hours as she couldn't cope.
  • Everything is a battle. 3 different meals every meal-time. Meltdowns from Son 2. Repetitive speech and actions seem to be to the max today.
  • I had the first appointment for Son 2 to be formally assessed for autism this week. I said he was monotone and barely expressed excitement. He's spent the whole fricking day hyper and manic! If the ADOS assessment and the school assessment don't match what I say, we'll have to go through more tests.
  • During the assessment, it becomes obvious that Son 1 has difficulties that need looking at (poss ADHD), but we need to deal with Son 2 first.
  • Oh, and son 2 has leukaemia. And his blood count was crap this week so we have to go back next week instead of in the usual 2 weeks. And I had to delay his usual lumbar puncture because of his autism assessment appointment.
  • Bathtime was hellish. Water everywhere as usual. I feel like a mad-screamy woman "don't do that. Put that down. You need to get out now. Now. NOW! I said NOW!".

Now I've got to change bedsheets because son 2 has refused to sleep unless he has his Cars bedsheets on and he's also been carrying round a "Frube" yoghurt for the past 2 days which he won't eat, he just wants to carry it and sleep with it because it has a picture of Kung Fu Panda on it!

I know people put up with more than me and that this is epic but I can't wait for tomorrow. School. A few hours of peace. Silence.

This is the only place I could think of where I could put down a tiny portion of what has driven me totally and utterly insane today and I know I won't be judged.

No reply necessary ladies. Just nod at your screens Smile

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jandymaccomesback · 15/01/2012 18:32

Nodding.

crazygal · 15/01/2012 19:06

bless ya!
a nice large glass Wine when they are all in bed,
xxXxx

PoopyFingers · 16/01/2012 16:14

I hear you.

Can you wash out the Frubes pack so he can carry around the wrapper, thus minimising the fucking annoyance stress of your home being smeared in Frube?

Ineedalife · 16/01/2012 16:19

I hear you and am nodding, eat chocolate and be kind to yourselfSmile.

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 16/01/2012 16:29

I do a good mad-screamy woman, myself.

Triggles · 16/01/2012 19:32

mad screamy here myself, so complete and utter sympathy from me. chocolate and drink of your choice... it's my only sanity right now.

saintlyjimjams · 16/01/2012 19:33

what is it with repetitions at the moment. DS1 flipped into over and over again mode yesterday and is still 'stuck'. Loads of tics as well, it looks exhausting for him.

TOTU · 16/01/2012 19:50

Thanks all. I'm feeling a lot better today - might be something to do with them being in school for most of the day though Smile.

Thanks to all the 'nodders' and 'mad-screamy' women. I am not alone!

crazy I went for the Wine after they had gone to bed.

Poopy, he's now dropped the Frube like the preverbial (sp) hot brick and is currently engrossed in carrying around a tiny cut-out from a McDonalds carton that has Tom and Jerry written on it (he can't even read!) Hmm

Saintly I feel your pain. Seeing your child flip, flap and exhaust themselves over something is just awful.

Anyway, thanks all. I don't know what I'd do without you. x

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tooearlymustdache · 16/01/2012 19:56

it would be Wine but i don't think i'd stop

fatcaaah · 16/01/2012 20:06

Another mad scream woman nodding at her screen here :)

ds1 15yo with complex behavioural / emotional sn, ds2 14yo nt, ds3 4 yo gdd, s&l disorder, autistic 'traits' hate that term and dd 2yo nt

Ds3 currently in one of his no sleep modes. Takes hours to go to sleep then awake from midnight ish most nights.

His washing machine obsession is very prominent atm too.

He had his first full day at school today. Was lovely, spent some well deserved time with little dd. Felt hideously guilty that it was lovely.

TOTU · 16/01/2012 20:12

too I have given in and have Wine, but I'll be in bed in about half an hour as I'm a lightweight.

fatcaaah, your name made me laugh Grin. You sound like you have a lot to deal with. I too get the guilty feeling. I had the day to myself today while the kids were at school and I did nothing. I even ordered the shopping online to be delivered tomorrow! Lazy caaah I am Smile

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fatcaaah · 16/01/2012 22:31

Funny TOTU I was thinking it sounds like you have a lot to deal with :)

We just get on with it really though don't we? With the occasional rant on here! God I love mn, dont know what is do without it sometimes, sad caaah that I am Grin

And shopping online isn't lazy! It's a necessity!

StarlightMcKenzie · 16/01/2012 22:49

Statistically, today was the day when the sickness absence rate is the highest all year. People just cannot face the 3rd Monday in Jan.

It is SUPPOSED to be frigging miserable. Well done for getting through it.

coff33pot · 17/01/2012 00:34

oh i seeeee (says another mad screaming woman) well that explains the day away then.

DS currently FINALLY gone to bed after being hyper all morning at school (after the silly womans comment of joining in morning excercise) totally upset because I said "come on chicken hury up" and he full on demanded he was NOT a chicken and how could I forget his name! and hyper all day deciding he was now a dog (I think the chicken statement helped in his animal decision lol). Stuck socks (inside out sensory) on hands and feet and is keeping our Jack Russel amused. Decides he doesnt have to go school tomorrow and if he does then thats ok as they will see his paws and dogs dont do dancing to music (I see his logic..........somewhere).

Now asleep still all socks intact with one exhausted dog, and I guess all will be ok in the morning as long as he doesnt cock his leg on the teacher Grin

Heres to a better day tomorrow for all!

tooearlymustdache · 17/01/2012 09:01

you know that better day, coff33pot?

can i book one for tomorrow please? this one has already gone belly up

this time it was DH who triggered it Angry
he's really stressed with work, (too many jobs, not enough hours,) so chose today to have a head on battle with DD about which cereal box to use (she wants the new box, he said no) so she sniffed almost every cheerio before she would eat it, refused to get dressed, hid under her bed, needed me to brush her hair 3 times slonger than usual.
they've gone to school now

TOTU · 17/01/2012 09:48

Starlight, interesting fact. And totally true from what I can tell.

coff33, Son 1 takes everything literally too. My 'darling' BIL does love to wind him up by saying "I'm gonna pull your bum off", or "I'm gonna put you in the bin" Hmm. Cue Son 1 crying and having nightmares. Yep, thanks for that BIL you silly man.

tooearly I'm cheering with you. A bit of peace until 3pm. Grin

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coff33pot · 17/01/2012 12:54

Has pictures of a boy holding his bum cheeks for dear life! Grin

DS has gone school without his dog paw socks thank goodness as he couldnt eat his breakfast with them on and he wont part with food Grin

However he did a commando stake out all the way to school just incase he saw the HT who he thinks will make him do dance excercises. Asked if I could go get his TA and he did his work in the hedge instead! Hates Lady Gaga now the HT lied as she said she was her favourite like me but she said she was playing Mac the Knife and its Marry the Night that is her new song to she not a fan like me.

45 mins later after me also sat in the hedge among dog poo and twigs manage to get him out and to school next question out of his mouth?

"Mum...........how old was I when you first had me?" Confused

ME: one second DS I gave birth to you.

DS: "I must have been very small then"

ME: Yes you were DS and beautiful

DS: Wish I was still that small then I could hide better in that hedge.

ME: Come on mate we are very late for school now

DS: I am not a mate I am a "DS"

SIGH Picking him up in 20 mins I have a feeling they have had an eventful day lol

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