A part of you dies when....

[Ellie4]

Ds2 age 3.6 says why doesn't dd 11mths play raspberries any more?

aww bless him! they soon grow out of things,and im a little guilty of wishing time away! (like,i cant wait till ds starts school/i cant wait till he walks etc etc)
xx

Is this because you are worried about your dd as per your other thread. if so I can truly empathise with this as was in similar situation three years ago now.

Yes cansu because I'm very worried about my dd. I'm trying desperately to do denial but a comment like that just shoots right through the language delay theory.

oh,didnt realise you were worried about dd ellie4,do hope all is ok xxx

I now have a DS 11 months my DD is 5 and has ADHD, dyspraxia and a lot more besides. I am constantly comparing their milestones and worrying myself sick. DS still not crawling or walking but is pointing DD never did that!!! Stick to the positives for every negative point there is a positive and at least this time around we know what we are looking for. Before with DD I hadn't a clue and relied upon that common view of "don't worry she is a bit slow all children develop differently". Hugs x

I think we watch DS3 with a much closer eye on his development, watching for similar traits that DS2 displayed at 2yo. I have to keep reminding myself when he throws a tantrum "he's 2, that's what they do.. he's 2, that's what they do.." He already communicates at 2yo much better than DS2 did at 4yo, but we still worry over everything. I think it goes with the territory.

Ellie - nothing to add. But am thinking of you.

If she's regressing you should take her to the doc. Get her into the system :(

you poor thing, it's horrible to have this sort of worry. My child never did do the raspberries at that age (language delay) so I honestly don't know what is normal, and if the raspberries stopping is worying or OK. If you have the money, I really can't see any harm in getting her checked over by private salt or developmental paed, as you know from your older child none of the ASD testing is invasive or unpleasant for the child.

it still may be nothing, but I understand where you are coming from. I did denial myself with my dd for a very long time and in fact it probably did no harm because I would probably have been given the iits too early let wait and see from the paed'. I think the only thing you can do is arm yourself with a plan and perhaps think about what you would do differently if there is a problem. Having more info has made a big difference to my dd compared with how I dealt with ds. Having said that it still broke my heart to be facing it all again. If it is just the blowing raspberries, don't panic yet but if it is combined with other signs then it might be worth voicing your concerns to a pead.

Ds2 'lost' eye contact at 10 or 11 months. It was the most horrible sick deja vu feeling. And then it came back after a little while. At the moment he seems NT again, certainly more so than ds1 did at a similar age. I have no idea why it went, nor why it came back.

With ds1, i think a lot of the normal stuff came as a sort of instinct (rather like a deaf baby will still babble at 7 months), but didn't stick once he had a choice in the matter. Obviously I maxed out with ds2 in trying to reinforce eye contact, but he was mainly interested in learning to walk at that time so I think the eye contact came back by itself.

Ds2 is in a sibling research project which helps cos I feel someone other than me is watching for signs. I may relax when he's 18. Or perhaps 21.

Well today was a better day which of course means tomorrow will be pants now I've written this. I agree with TLP that not knowing what is normal is hard. I thought ds1 was normal till I read an article on ASD when he was 23mths and it fitted. Till then we just thought he was slightly late with lang and had put it down to 2 languages spoken at home. DS2 was putting words together at 12mths so no use comparing to him. Been putting all your suggestions to use today and seemed to have good results. Also trying to give ds1 1:1 time as well as ds2 who is having major jealousy issues over dd and I'm exhausted
Thanks for all your replies.