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Bagpipes · 11/11/2003 09:56

Hi everyone - It is 10.37pm here Tuesday night in NZ - My psychologist arrived at 7:30pm and left just on 10pm!! (poor thing kept her out too late). I am not surprised at all with what she has reported - not shocked or even disappointed, as I knew the report would mainly reflect on all 'the positive things' my son can do.

The issues that were brought up were: lack of language skills (even though as a family we can clearly understand him most of the time) - sensory issues, and lack of planning ability.

Aggressive behaviour????? Well, she basically worded: "I did not observe a situation where DS appeared to purposefully set out to harm a child or rough-play in any way." This observation was only observed within the kindergarten.

She said he has a gentle manner of relating to other children - ummmm oh yes right????
His depth perception is not good - and it is therefore understandable that his ability to sense his own body in space is not strong. It is recommended that his attempts to "space" himself from others e.g. during busy activity times on the mat, are appreciated as such and not perceived as him wanting to be aggressive or "push" other children.

This last sentence I have just written - Does that say, he does push and can be aggressive - BUT hey its not his fault??? Well she really needs to see him with his 11mth old brother - as yesterday DS2 was slammed to the floor big time - I almost took my 11mth old off to the doctor (bump on his wee head today )

She wants language to include "This is mine, This is DS"

She said he does have some symtoms of Dyspraxia, but not all of them - But he is not Dyspraxic????? Ok I am with her now LOL

So, when I asked - ok so what are we going to do to try and overcome some of these issues.
Her reply: Continue with what you are doing -I said, you have got to be joking????? She said, no the time out is the way to go - you are making progress, just continue with all of this.

Any comments??? Sorry for so long. She is such a lovely lady to talk with (but can she help us??)

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dinosaur · 11/11/2003 10:11

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mrsforgetful · 11/11/2003 11:03

Bagpipes-i know you weren't suprised by what she said- i just wish you were...ie that she actually made recommendations that would help! It is so frustrating when these professionals are so nice...it makes it so hard to be 'cross' about what they say!!!! Does that make sense? I think what dinosaur said is a great way forward- and i hate to mention 'failure' etc... but at least if a target is set and despite assistance he cannot 'reach the goal' then surely then people will start to listen to you- i won't go on now but as you know we are in similar positions- ie: that we are sick of professionals ignoring what we as mums can see clearly isn't right- i am going to start a ne thread later called " How bad does it have to get before his school agree with me?" -so you will see 'the latest' the incidents yesterday and today which show ds2's autie behaviour! Keep Smiling!

Jimjams · 11/11/2003 11:22

An IEP is a good idea.

it is good that she recognises that his aggressive behaviour isn't intentional as such. However this is not an excuse for not dealing with it! If he has lots of sensory problems then this can make a child aggressive, however if this is suspected as contributing to the problem then a daily desensitisation programme needs to be started now. If you feel that time out isn;t working then something else needs to be put into place for when he is aggressive.

I agree that an IEP is the way to go- small steps to begin with, but ask about a sensory programme (my son also has poor depth perception- but he has a daily program under way to help with that and other sensory probs).

fio2 · 11/11/2003 13:53

Sorry you havent got what you wanted out of this assessment but the others have given you some good advice. Hope things improve for you soon. It's so frustrating isnt it?

dinosaur I have to use my dh's e-mail too and people have often said I wondered who this bloke was e-mailing meWink

dinosaur · 11/11/2003 14:02

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fio2 · 11/11/2003 14:06

do you really want to know?Wink

Wolves!!!!! But we are moving soon so he will be too far away from them! he!he!he!Grin

fio2 · 11/11/2003 14:07

Wolves = Wolverhampton Wanderers btw (just incase you didnt know!)

dinosaur · 11/11/2003 14:08

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fio2 · 11/11/2003 14:10

I dont know how to spell it either, maybe.. Molineaux - its quite good for WolverhamptonWink

My Dad was a Baggies fan though.....

dinosaur · 11/11/2003 14:15

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fio2 · 11/11/2003 14:20

so trueSmile dh did used to go to villa games too. My old friend is married to an old villa player - who is a complete prat (SC) dont write it down my anon will be goneSad

dinosaur · 11/11/2003 14:25

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fio2 · 11/11/2003 14:31

no think he was mid field

dinosaur · 11/11/2003 14:42

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Eulalia · 11/11/2003 22:34

bagpipes - how is your ds with his little brother on other occasions - is he gentle towards him. my ds pushes and hits my dd but can be gentle too. the thing is he may not want to be aggressive and it is good to recognise that but if he is being aggressive for whatever reason then this needs to be addressed for your ds to cope in the 'real world.

Love your name BTW

fio2 · 12/11/2003 18:35

sorry if I upset your day dinosaurSad he is nothing to show off about btw.....she whispers >he beats up womenSad<

He is a reall tw*t, just didnt want to write his name down in case I get sued(sp?) And also I am not very anon - maybe I should change my name!

dinosaur · 12/11/2003 21:23

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Bagpipes · 13/11/2003 07:32

Hi everyone - thanks for your comments. Tried to get onto mumsnet last night- but just couldn't load the site!! We had the IEP last Thursday (silly timing before the psych. report) So, most of the IEP rolled over from the last 6mths - nothing really has changed for my DS in 6mths, apart from more language emerging (new words every day!!)
Eulalia - my DS adores my wee 11mth old BUT I can not leave them alone for a minute - He is so heavy handed with him, and at times tries to be gentle - BUT because he just doesn't stop/respond to nice touching, gentle touching - Or if I say, No DS we don't push, or we don't touch like that. He often continues - even after he has been told to stop 4-5 times (really frustrating to get him to stop). DS always wakes up and says "where Oscar" Where Oscar" He does love him to bits - but at this stage, it is not advisable to leave them alone. Have tried a few times - but have had to remove DS hands from around DS2's neck, or DS has slammed DS2 to the floor and I have heard a huge bang It is so hard going, as DS tries to drag DS2 around - either by the legs, or around the shoulders.

I asked for a pyschologist to help with a fresh approach, different ideas of behaviour strategies - BUT I guess, she herself just wasn't as qualified as everyone raved on about!! I have re-read the report over and over and quite alarmed with wee bits that read: Sure it is ok for a typical 4year boy to reach across and grab food from a lunchbox with chips in it. She felt it was ok for him to help himself to over kids lunchboxes - I thought it was appalling. I would never allow my children to do this - My son has his own lunchbox for of good healthy food. She seen him spitting water at children - and thought there was nothing wrong with that either - blimey she honestly couldn't fault my son to be honest - Where was she coming from ???

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Eulalia · 13/11/2003 18:23

Bagpipes - does this women not look at other 4 year olds? I mean most are well socialised and know each others 'space' by this age.

dinosaur - sometimes my ds deliberatly dribbles and he blows big wet raspberries, and shows me his chewed up food in his mouth... etc lovley!

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