"it's not like it usually is and I don't like it"

[BarfAndHeave]

DS is refusing to get dressed this morning and is hiding in a tent in his bedroom, refusing to come out. His behaviour had been really difficult since the run up to Xmas and his tics and stims have been getting more and more pronounced as time has worn on. When I asked him what the matter was he said "you know how we normally get up and I go to school and gp picks me up and we cone home? Well it's not like that any more and my body feels funny and I don't like it.

I've reassured him that he'll be back at school next week and back into routine, but it's such hard work and sometimes I could just cry with frustration for him. I feel do bad that Xmas has reduced him to curling up in his room in the dark as he can't take any more. This should be just the best time of the year for a 5 to and instead he hates it. Bollocks.

:(

It's great that he could articulate his problem though. That is pretty amazing.

Maybe he'd like having a timetable for the holidays, so that he knows what to expect today?

:( I feel for you and your DS.

On the good side though it is great that he can explain the way he is feeling to you so you can at least understand why he wants to hide so well done to him there :)

If it was DS (and he hates school) he would be a little angry person instead rather than explaining and it takes all day to work out what it is that is upsetting him sometimes.

I just wouldnt put pressure on him getting dressed and leave him in his little safe haven if he wants to be there x

Perhaps get the new calender down and mark the school day on it and get him to tick it off to show he hasnt long to wait. Each day do something school related like get his little bag ready, read his school book, lay his uniform out etc so he knows its going to happen.

Barf what a sad tale.

what happens if you leave him there, does he become more withdrawn or will he comfort himself and come out in his own time?

FWIW DD has been asking me everyday since Boxing day if it's a school or ballet day as she's desperate to get back into routine too.

that's a great plan about the calendar, i'm going to do that now too.

DS eventually got up and dressed by 2pm on the promise that we wouldn't make him go out anywhere. We've had to cancel our new year plans as he was going to have a night at the GPs while we went out for the night but he really doesn't want to and we're not going to push it.

He's been having minor meltdowns so at least this was quiet!

Santas - we find if we leave him he sorts himself out and comes down eventually but if we force him to do things when he gets to that point it tips him into major meltdown mode.

Yay. Aspergers. You've got to love it.