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we got the word 'why?' for Christmas....

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signandsingcarols · 26/12/2011 14:28

A while ago I was wondering if ds would ever get the word 'why'? well.... it has arrived! Ta da! .

He is now 5, and suddenly everything is 'why?' (I'm thrilled, as this time last year I never thought he would have enough speech to do that)... just wanted to tell you all.

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moondog · 26/12/2011 17:10

That is bloody GREAT!!!

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 26/12/2011 23:32

Only here will people understand what a HUGE thing this is! Such an abstract concept! You'll get sick of it eventually, but, wow!

santastooearlymustdache · 27/12/2011 08:01

aw, that's brilliant

cwtch4967 · 27/12/2011 08:42

That's lovely - I would love a why!

santastooearlymustdache · 27/12/2011 08:46

'why' in young DCs is such a contentious word isn't it?

the fact DD didn't use it when DCs the same age were was a huge red flag for me, now i know when she does use it, she really wants to know 'why', not just challenging or boundary pushing like her NT peers.

we've had to learn to embrace the 'whys'

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signandsingcarols · 27/12/2011 18:02

I'm just enjoying all the random questions, I think it could get to be a bit of verbal stim if we don't monitor it, (in fact even if we do, IYSWIM) but I am also loving being able to ask why questions to him, and occasionally getting an answer back being able to talk about why people might be upset instead of just commenting that they are is such a joy. ellen is right no one off of this board would get how huge that is...

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creatovator · 30/12/2011 22:21

Sign just catching up.. that's fab .

chuckeyegg · 31/12/2011 07:22

That's fabulous, I remember that with my niece the conversation can go on and on and on .........

dazeycat · 31/12/2011 10:29

That's great - I would love a 'why' too! HNY

oodlesofdoodles · 01/01/2012 14:45

How wonderful. May I ask whether 'why?' was a target you worked on, eg with aba or whether it just came spontaneously?

My ds is nearly 5 and we get lots of what but why is still elusive.

BriocheDoree · 01/01/2012 15:01

Congratulations. Jealous
DD is 7.5 and still no sign of WHY

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signandsingcarols · 02/01/2012 14:25

oodles, we did work on it, but nothing as commited as ABA .

I do a running commentary on life around ds and we had been working on recognising emotions, (lots of games and pictures and stories and commenting on people around us etc), when he began to comment, 'that boy is sad'. we started to say yes he is sad, he is sad because XYZ, we also did this with his own feelings 'I think you are angry, you are angry because XYZ' we then added in a why, 'yes, X is angry, why is X angry? he's angry because you broke his toy.'

we also did lots of modelling it between me and dh so ds could see how it worked. I think it 'went in' and he mulled it over for a while, and then tried it out to see how it worked, I think the best one so far has been 'mummy why are you speaking to me!?' (when he wanted to continue the game and not go and do a wee)

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oodlesofdoodles · 02/01/2012 14:54

Good stuff well done the Sign family. I'll show dh your thread. Best wishes for 2012.

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