Tell me NO! and I am mad....

[eidsvold]

have been feeling incredibly broody - sort of - always thought I would have a biggish family. Have the two dd's and I would love one more child. Dh feels he is too old, we can't afford it, much higher risk of SN ( age + dd1), these two are a handful at times.... all of those things that I agree with and realise are true

BUT - I would love one more......

tell me to be thankful for my two beautiful dds and not to hanker after what could be.... tell me I am mad to want three... tell me to forget it

I wouldn't mind a boy - all right for dh he has his daddy's girls - even dd2 who was a right mummy's girl is becoming a daddy's girl. Mama may have been her first word but it has disappeared - replaced by dadda.....

In fact - would love another dd if it came down to it

BUT

dh says no... so tell me NO too

ha ha ha - now I look at dd3 who turns one in a week guess who won this one!!

Funnily enough I feel fine with my three and no hankering for no4! must have been.

aww eidsvold, it is lovely to read through this thread, happy birthday to your dd when it comes, I am hankering for a third child, we are very near to having some kind of asd type diagnosis for my ds who is nearly 4, I do worry about having another sn child, but I have always thought I would have 3 children, my dh is on the fence, will need some convincing....

what a lovely thread

I went for three, at the time I did not realise that DS2 had AS, i just thought he was unusual in a good way. DS3 has affected the family dynamics in interesting ways; I now realise that he is the only one who is entirely NT, his normality has highlighted the atypical development of his brothers, this makes me sure that their problems are nature not nurture which increases my confidence as a mother and also makes me more accepting of their challenges. DS3 is also very bright and mature for three and therefore is able to interact well with his brothers, the constant wrestling does get a bit annoying and i have not had a tidy house since DS3 was born. However I am not risking a third even though I would love a girl 'cos I don't think i would be able to give enough individual attention to four especially if they had special needs too.

I have four ds's. The eldest is 19, has AS and is at university, he copes very well with life, and is doing quite well. I then have ds2(5), suspected AS, ds3(3) with autism, and my youngest who seems to be NT so far at 15 months but appears to have some sensory issues. So I have 3 little ones at home, and I sometimes would like another just so I could have a daughter. However knowing the genetic possibility of the next one also being affected, I don't think I will have another one. I love all my boys, and they are a challenge, but I am glad they have eachother. I know that even though ds3will have problems having friends, my 15 month old insists on sharing everything with him, offers him drinks from his beaker etc., it really is so sweet to watch, at least my ds2 will not be alone.
. Also, I see my ds1 coping so well, I know it is possible, at least for my ds2.
My house is always a tip, there is always the stress of diagnoses, statements, etc, and the expense.
I am glad that I have all my boys, I wouldn't have it any other way.
I am 40 by the way, dh is 36.

ally - my house too - I seem to have spurts and get it tidy - usually clean but seems to be so messy all the time.

I found this thread when searching for something else and it made me chuckle.