My ds is 4 and has asd traits, both myself, dh & school have noticed things. School have put him on a action plan to help him and are kinda "seeing how it goes". Hv has been round and observed him at home and from what she has seen isn't concerned.
He has outgrown alot of things, he use to be scared of hand dryers, not socialise with others, never give eye contact etc. Now he does (probably not as much as he should but loads better).
But! Now I have ds2 (1 years) I'm even more worried about ds2 as I am noticing how different ds1 was as a baby. For example Ds2 has got a sit on car and plays with it, sits on it/ pushes it etc. When ds1 was little he's lay down and spin the wheels and watch them over and over again. Ds2 likes to open cupboards and grab things out, ds1 use to open and close cuboards over and over watching them etc etc.
The things I'm currently worried about with ds1 are:
He can go weeks with no accidents and then will go weeks with having accidents (pooing himself) and always says "I didn't make it to toilet in time" - 9 times out of 10 he never try's. He also has other toilet issues, refused to go, won't poo when you can see him desperately needing to go. Sometimes he sits in it too until we smell /notice it.
He also likes to lick his hands and chin, but mainly his hands. He caused his lips to bleed with all the licking.
He seems behind at school compared to others, can't recognise his own name, has no interest in reading or writing but loves colouring and will sit doing it all night.
Sometimes he talks gibberish and I have to keep telling him to talk properly, he ends up getting stressed out and will shout.
He often shows something's wrong (he might suddenly lay down or huff and puff) and then if i ask him he'll shout "nothing".
He is funny with foods, won't eat brown food, definitely not things that need browning eg roast potatoes. Past few days he won't swallow his food just chews it.
He always tells me he needs toilet, rather than just going. He'll walk past toilet to tell me he's busting for a wee.
He seems to be morngy and will cry / scream easily, eg if ds2 touches one of his toys.
I don't know, am u just being paranoid or not? What would I do? School won't admit there too concerned, hv see's nothing wrong. Is it just me?