I think my world is crumbling around me. Please help

[Memoo]

my wonderful, bright son is ten. He has always been highly sensitive and had issues with food.

Out of the blue school have just me they suspect he may have aspergers. But he's 10!! How could he have gone this long without a diagnosis?

This is where we're at.

Ds is developing OCD tendencies. He has to take the correct number of steps to school. He has to wear certain socks on certain days. He moans about clothes not feel right, socks that dig in, jumpers that itch. He becomes obsessive about certain things but after a few months with move on to the next.
He won't eat at the moment at all. He is dating he feels like he is going to choke.
He can't bare any change. His teacher has changed and it's sent him into turmoil.
He's so bright, top in everything. And he beautiful and I love him so much.
Does this sound like a child with ASD? Have school got in wrong?
Feel like a bomb has just been dropped on my home

Thankyou zzzz, that is so true. It is just a name. My son is still exactly who he always was, a bright, wonderful, big hearted and very sensitive boy who I love with all my heart. I've always known he was a bit different and this is just the doctors name for it. I think once I get my head round this it will be fine. I'm just in a little bit of shock atm.

Indigo is right Memoo,the fact that our ds's are being diagnosed so late in childhood does indeed mean that their problems are very mild. So that is really a good thing! You are lucky that you have this board to post on and get advice and support-I only discovered it by accident last july when searching for some Aspergers related piece of info.It would have been great if I had known of it when ds was diagnosed. You will be fine, but it is an awful shock when you have never suspected anything (like me). Definitely go for a diagnosis though-it will help your lovely ds no end in the future. It also helps the school apply for funding etc for any special support he might need. We too wondered about whether or not to go for daignosis but I kept thinking about what problems secondary school might have for him etc in the future. I didnt want to be taking a 13/14yr old for a diagnosis when we could do it now.As it was ,he didnt take the diagnosis very well himself-still doesn't like to talk much about it.But I often think how much worse he could have taken it if we left it till he was a hormonal teenager. Am thinking of you today as your story is so similar to mine. Lots of love!