Please can someone recommend a good book or video about how to handle ODD

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I am in tears today, I've had enough.
DS is almost 7 and has a general developmental delay alongside many difficult behavioural issues.
I can deal with his hyperactivity, his constant need for attention, his lack of social skills, but the defiant and difficult behaviour is really getting me down, I don't know what to do.
I need help.

Anyone please?

I dont know a lot about ODD but send you hugs and found this site?
www.ehow.com/list_7436029_strategies-oppositional-defiance.html

It has got a ask a therapist online further down? And a couple videos to the right? :)

Thank you very much for the links. I have tried so many things for years. I normally feel strong, but lately I feel I'm falling into a deep hole of endless battles.
How do people with teenagers that have this condition manage.

the explosive child is good

Thank you roundcorn. Xx

I feel for you and understand. I have had enough of my ds1(7.10). He has been diagnosed AS, but they originally thought ODD. And the defiance kills me. I am shouting so much at him recently I have made myself loose my voice. Not good. I am so ashamed. But he is just too much for me at the moment. BIG HUG to you. Its hard when You need support, but you don't even know what, and you know there is little support out there anyway.

Thank you Oblomov, another hug back to you.
So sorry you are also finding it difficult.
We really try out best with him, we are good parents with the best of intentions, but I am starting to feel so depressed now. He is getting taller and taller, we are finding it more difficult even going out as a family, we can no longer ask people to assume its a toddler tamtrum.
I am also really worried about the impact this negative behaviour is having on my younger son, he is well behaved but seems extremely stessed by what he sees.