I've decided to 'bite the bullet' and post on her EXACTLY what the paed wrote in her report following my request for her to observe ds2
Someone i showed it to today was shocked after what the school had said that the PAED had not begun the diagnosis process
THe report (not all of it!!!! )
TEACHERS COMMENTS (not edited...in full!!)
DS2 will mix and play with other children but does not have close friends.
He can work in a pair or with a small group of children.
He does not volunteer to help others,does not show empathy and tends to be egocentric.
He does look and make eyecontact in conversation.
Generally he is quire articulate and can explain what he means.
When he first started school it was hard to get him to stop talking,he interuppted and called out frequently-but this is better now.
He has a strong sense of what is fair and unfair
He likes things to be right
He is very precise about time
Hebecomes intensley involved in things that interest him
Paeds Comments
ds2 is showing difficulties with social interaction and communication skills.
He shows inflexibility in his thought processes.
He prefers routine and a structured environment.
He shows an intense interest in certain topics about which he has a detailed knowledge.
He shows some stereotypical behaviour.
His behaviour patterns show some features typical of those experienced by children who have Asperger's Syndrome.
However in ds1's case this is to a lesser degree than with children who have asperger's syndrome.He ia able to function in a normal classroom environment.
He is keen to interact socially with his peers although he sometimes misunderstands conventions of social conduct.
I feel it is not appropriate to give him a label of AS at the present time, although he does show some tendancies towards this.He may benefit from some help with developing his social skills at school at some stage.
Social interaction between children becomes more complex as they get older.
If ds1 has difficulty managing social situations later and his behaviour becomes disruptive it may be appropriate to reassess his behaviour and reconsider the possibility of a diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome
That's the important stuff- can i have some rational thoughthere....when i read 'no empathy,no close friends,egocentric,likes things to be right,precise,intensely involved in things,inflexibility,routine,stereotypical behaviour' i think it's ridiculous that she then says 'he is able to function in a normal classroom environment'
With behaviour like that is it no wonder he has no close friends and only 4 replis to 9 party invites?
Please be honest- i know he's not severe- but it is very hard work at home and a 'label' would be very useful to throw at family who say he's moody and a whinger!