At what point did it hit you something might be wrong?

[lisad123]

I mean really one of those moments where it all clicks in, or you suddenly notice it?

With dd1 we were standing outside the school and she was in full meltdown because I suggested she might like to attend art club afterschool :( it suddenly hit me this reaction was too extreme for a child who loves art.

I think with dd2 it was a little more subtle, but mainly just looking and seeing her alone at toddler group but also the wanting to breast feed but doing so with as little body contact as possible (ouch).

What about you?

Dd1 was like a mini Houdini from toddlerhood at home and at nursery she would escape from everywhere constantly up to mischief, the worst was on holiday in Africa! Dd2 has screamed from birth so from then I guess but turning point was when I realised how much she couldn't bear even the slightest amount of wind on her face when in the pram

I went to a business trip for 2 weeks when DS was 1.5 y and he wasn't pleased to see me :( gives a good cause for the family to blame my career for his delay!

The day I first took my son to pre-school and I saw other 3 yr olds there, TALKING to each other.
My son could just about name a few objects.

I cried that evening.

The day he fractured his leg in 3 places and didnt cry a tear. Same happened when his elbow was dislocated at nursery there were no tears even when it was being popped back :(

But I guess it really clicked into place when I was going through his first birthday party video helping me jot milestone notes down. He was sat there amongst loads of people with a straight face spinning a bowl. His aunty was pulling faces and trying to make him laugh and he just stared at her mouth. It hit home just how much hadnt clicked with me :(

2 days old when he went blue and was rushed into hospital. Sudden and brutal

When DS first started school, he was sent home 3 times in the first fortnight and the head teacher told me that they've never had to exclude someone so young.

Lisad when my ds2 was about 3, I watched him sleeping one night and actually said out loud to myself "one day, someone is going to say something is different about you". I then forgot about that moment until he started school ....

When I took DS1 to his 2 year review with a health visitor and he failed every check except the physical ones. The HV referred him for further assessment. I got very angry at her for suggesting my child was anything less than 110% perfect. A few months later I went back to find her, apologise, and tell her that she was actually very good at her job. If it hadn't been for her we wouldn't have got him the help he needed so early on.

I think I always knew Dd3 was quirky, at just a few weeks old she would jump with fright if the pram went over a bump, thrash around if the sun was in her eyes or scream hysterically at the sound of the vacuum.

She had to be wrapped up tightly with about 3 blankets to get her to sleep, the midwife told me off for over wrapping her.

But I didn't start to try to get her a Dx until she was 5 and it became obvious that school was going to be a real genuine trauma for her.

It wasn't a sudden click for me. More of a slow realisation.

I'd already had one NT daughter, then had my boys and wondered why they didn't make eye contact with me or engage or focus on any toys put on their Moses baskets.

Then the HV said "do you notice their eyes wobble?". Then it was onto the SN merry-go-round. My ex is still in denial