Fed up , what is it some older badge wielding blokes?

[droves]

Need a wee moan .

Had dd4(asd, gdd,hyper mobility, growth disorder) and het twin at asda . With my friend who just had leg surgery.

Parked in disabled bay and displayed dd4S badge as usual.

She was in a trolley ,so I didn't have to get out her massive buggy.

Put dd in car seat , put ds4 in car seat , helped friend in car , put shopping in car . Went round to turn on the heater ( dd must be kept warm and car was very cold.

Older man in big fancy car in next bay ,started shouting about the trolley ...because I hadn't put it back straight away .( getting asd child strapped into car seat is a wee bit more important IMO ).

I turn round , give him a smile and take trolley back.

His window is still down and he's muttering.

Because he had been sat there since I had arrived at asda , I thought id tell him to watch for traffic wardens. They are really by the book up here and if they had caught him sitting in disabled bay waiting for someone else they would take the badge off him.Counting it as miss use. ( have friend who is a traffic warden she told me when dd got hers )

He started screaming at me ,swearing ,and cursing , " FFA you don't even have a badge" . I asked him to stop shouting and swearing and showed him dd4s badge.

By this point my children are in tears terrified ...his daughter turns up and apologizes for him. And tells me he has angina . ..but has a thing for picking arguments .
I asked her if he would have shouted like that if dh had been in the car ?
No ,his daughter says .

So I told her not to worry about it.

This is the second old bloke who has had a go at me for " using disabled spaces when I'm not entitled " ....Do they not get it that children can get the badges because they are disabled ? They're not just for o.a.p.s.

( want to cry and eat my own weight in chocolate )

shit isnt it? I have had an elderly lady stand by my car when i was getting ds2's wheelchair out, and with the badge on display, and shout loudly to her h who was still in their car, that she was just waiting to see which of us in the car were disabled

because obviously only elderly people are disabled

she scuttled off quickly enough when i showed her the wheelchair and reminded her that she was lucky she could walk , compared to my son who cant

i mainly ignore the stares and glares when i pull into a space nowadays though, or my life would be full of daily battles that i dont need

this makes me so angry thoughtless peole angina is no excuse to be rude,i don't drive but i travel on the bus all the time and the elderly think just because they are old they can sit in the pushchair and wheelchair spaces and then loudly disscuss why my childs head is funny shape . :(

drives me nuts too.... dh has badge, and the amount of older people who give us daggers when we park in bays is shocking... I thought it was cos we had ds with us and disabled people aren't supposed to have sex, let alone have children! so dh can't really be disabled.....

Am just waiting for the first person who actually says something... I have decided to lift his trouser legs (with his agreement,) to show his AFO's and say 'yes these are obviously just a fashion statement!!!!!!'

altho come to think of it he did have camoflage ones at one point, (I think they were using up some of the plastic they use for the kids ones, they were fab,

i can just about deal with people staring but its the comments that kill me

Beca that's awful . Some people are just ignoramuses .

My dd4 looks like a " normal , but small 2 year old " ....( she's anything but though ) ..so I've never had "stares or bitchy comments directed at her .
It must be horrible for you and your little one ...some people are just vile.

Sign .... Go on I dare you to flash your dh ... I can just picture the old dears blushing with embarassment !

te best one has to be the day when we were in playgroup and one of the grannies turned to me and said if u put her down on the floor she'd crawl .so i just told her my dd has a spinal cord defect, hypotonia,hyper mobility syndromeand plagiacephly she may never walk she went very quiet lol

On holiday we pulled up in a disabled space. An old lady (with NO badge) pulled up next to us and sat glaring at us. My Mum was with us.. a very fit healthy 60 yr old and as she got out of the car the old lady rolled down her window and sneered 'well YOU don't look very disabled to me!'

Whereupon my Mum smiled and said, ' I'm fit as a fiddle thanks, but my grandson however IS and that's his wheelchair my daughter is getting out of the boot..and HIS blue badge. I can't see yours!'

The old cow went beet red and started reversing out asap..only she was in such a hurry she couldn't turn out and had to do 3 attempts...while we all stood and grinned It was a good moment....

Medusa ...that made me
Well done to your mum !

Can I borrow her ?

Medusa I had a similar experience recently!

I have rarely been challenged re BB parking but had a sarky comment a few weeks ago in town. I parked in a disabled space, displayed DD2s Blue Badge then hopped out and opened the boot getting the Maclaren Major out.

An older woman passing by said "humph, you don't look very disabled". I just smiled at her and said "I'm not".

When she'd finished her little tirade about lazy women with young children don't know they're born and can't be bothered to walk to the shops etc etc I looked her in the eye, said "Have you finished? Good. Would you like me to explain to you about my daughter's genetic disorder that causes her to be disabled?" as I started to lift her out of the car

I've never seen someone move so quick!

i had to catch a bus the other day with ds it was really really full and he point blank refuses to sit on my knee, i heard this lady start tutting so i attempted to sit ds on my knee so she could sit next to me, he went ridged started screaming then threw himself on the floor and wuldnt get up, started hitting me then he started telling her to shooo , in the end she said oh it doesnt matter i'll stand....

my favourite is sainsburys. who apparently encourage their staff to park in the disabled bays if they are on the late shift, so they don't have to walk to their cars across the car park in the dark.

bless.

or so the employee that i questioned told me, as she hopped out of her car in ehr sainsbo's uniform from the spot nearest to the door and ran across the road.

my moter's really good at putting people in their place i have a ds who has hypotonia and when he was 2 a woman turned to my mother and said he doesnt look disabled so she turned to the woman and said its not his face thats the problem,but he is now 11 and goes to ms school plays rugby,football,and dodgeball for the school

ment mother

You could be talking about my ex-neighbour!...vile old man!

Only ever shouted his mouth off at me, though, never dh. Funny, that.

He also had angina and liked picking fights....I felt sorry for his wife, tbh

Sign...you have S E X...But but but...you're married! Heavens above woman, what's going on...married women having S E X with their husbands, tut tut.

(Did you spot the Les Dawson S E X there?)

OK guys I can beat the lot of yer, I got physically assaulted in ASDA car park when i was carrying younger then aged 18 months and non walking, chasing older son then 3, and not only walking but running like Linford across the car park, 2 daughters aged about 8 and 10 then....by an older fella who thought i didn't sederve to be parked in a disabled bay despite me displaying quite clearly my orange badge as it was then.
he shook my arm (the one holding youngest DS) nearly causing me to drop him on the concrete ground, while screaming and spitting in my face about how people like me made him sick, parking in disabled bays blah blah blah...

Luckily i knew the head security guard who came running out, called the police who happened t be there anyway probably chasing all the thieves, and they followed him round the shop, stopping every time he did to make him feel awkward and embarrassed cos i refused to press charges, being as i was in tears, distraught and shaking like a leaf and still had to do me bloody shopping with the boys by now off their heads with anxiety, screaming and throwing themselves around!

all good fun eh ladies!

Oh and another one not quite parking but involving Asdas.
Years ago was in Asda and daughter and older son were queueing at customer services to return a scaleectrix thing I'd bought older son for Christmas which didn't work.
I'm queueing at the checkout when younger DS tried to climb head first out of the trolley, and covered in sht cos he'd pood himself.
I had no wet wipes, clean clothes or anything, so had to leave the shopping and drag him all the way to the toilets which were bloodu miles away...when gets there the bloody disabled loo was locked as usual so i went and got 'Stan, happy to help' basket man and asked him to unlock the loo. He asked why, I said my son is disabled. he looked him up and down (bearing in mind we had also left a trail of evidence- poo- all the way along the store) and said in his wisdom (!) "Well he doesn't look disabled to me"
Ahhh red rag to a bull, there i was, stressed, screaming poo covered child, other child distraught with daughter in CS queue, no wet wipes etc and this dick announced my kid doesn't look disabled!
I said very succinctly;
"He has Fragile X Syndrome
He has autism
He has complext tourettes syndrome
He has epilepsy
He has severe ADHD and he has a heart murmur....WOULD YOU LIKE ME TO CONTINUE OR ARE YOU GONNA GET ME THE FING KEY NOW?"

He got the key!

Mind you when i asked him to get me a packet of wet wipes (had to tell him 3rd aisle, 2nd row along) and he said 'make sure you pay for them', this was the 2nd thing of the day that he instantly regretted saying....

I never did pay for them!

good for u

We get this too, Dd is 15 now, and she just looks at them for a minute, lets them rant and then says swap your legs for mine, as I get her chair out. They soon shoot off!

Never had problem in disabled spot with son who has a blue badge but I am a very tall 6' 6" ex rugby player.

I did get a lot of abuse however with my eldest when she was a few months old and I'd parked in a parents and toddler space at the Trafford Centre. On a cursory glance my daughter wasn't visible in the back of the car. I'd parked up but didn't get out immediately as i was listening to something on the radio. I turned off when I heard shouting, not realising it was at me. A woman had pulled up behind me and wound her window down and was shouting abuse, in extremely strong language, at me for using a p&c space. After I got out she kept on shouting at me. I never said anything as I slowly got my coat on, got my wallet and phone out of car and generally went about my business slowly. Deliberately the last thing I did was get my daughter out and all I said was "who feels foolish now". She shot off sharpish with her kids and husband all looking sheepish behind her.

I was shouted at this morning. Well ds1 was. About something different. The people apologised but I still feel like shit. I don't mind tuts and comments but find being yelled at utterly humiliating.

Sympathy.,

Hi unpaid loved the les dawson S E X, did you push your bust up and gurn at the same time????

lancsdad loved that!

dh's condition (CMT) means he has no propriception (sp?) so if he isn't actually conciously concentrating on where his legs and feet are he falls over,and if he gets up tight he stops concentrating... (we have to have horizontal arguments,) so if he is challenged re the disability he usually ends up in a heap at their feet.... cue much ing