Ds2 kept his first secret! and lingle kept it in proportion.

[lingle]

just popping in for the usual "only here will people understand the significance" reason.

So DS2 (now 6. 3 but at 3.6 had severe receptive language delay and still has sensory issues and social communication problems) managed not to tell DS1 what his birthday present is for a whole two weeks. He also no longer discloses his hiding place during hide and seek. He seems to understand his own mind a lot more and slowly starting to understand other people's (though we have a long way to go).

And just as good is that I managed not to let this latest achievement of DS2's dominate the celebration of DS1's birthday.

ds2 has at 4 years old just started to respond when you ask him his name. Funny how your idea of 'milestones' changes!

Well done mini Lingle!

How did mini lingle do it? It would tax my nt children. Well done!

welll done DS2! any developments on the one friend at a time issue? (tis total here)

not much total. I think you were right. This particular friend suits him. He has had another party invitation though and is excited about it.

Every Tuesday and Friday the first thing he does when he runs out of school is ask if the friend can come to our house. Last Friday it was a "no" and he shouted and screamed in the playground which was embarrassing. But afterwards he explained: "[friend] asked if he could come to my house and I said yes - you didn't TELL me" and I found that very encouraging for reasons I'm sure you'll understand. (He seems to understand the difference between ask and tell now but it's more about that ability to analyse his own feelings and describe them that cheers me).

How is your DS doing? Is he having a good year at school? Do he seem like he's going to take after his dad and be quite happy?

he's still a jolly little thing, and the Y2/3 transition actually has gone better than the Y1/2 transition. I am reasonably sanguine about primary school (small caring school, committed staff) but am starting to mildly panic about high school.

reasonably sanguine is pretty damn good for us tocha.:)

that's great Lingle :)

My ds (5.2 lots of communication issues, receptive & expressive) asked me what a secret was recently - I was a bit flummoxed & muttered something about it being when we don't tell someone something ... don't think he understood based on my crap answer!