This is not a moan about my family as it is extremely difficult for all of them as they are NT. BUT how can I make them see that DS will always be like he is at least for the time being.
If you leave hand cream, shampoo, toothpaste, hair gel, nail varnish, perfume out he will get it and smear it on windows mirrors and floors.
He gets told not to do it but cant seem to help himself.
He will go into his sisters room repeatedly and take anything bottle or spray wise and empty it on something or somewhere.
DH had a new game for his birthday and ds took it from his draw and put it on to play early hours of morning. Its too old for him and so I told him that plus he had a consequence of losing his ds for the morning for going into DH desk. Next morning he did it again. And the next. each time he had a consequence.
I am dreading tomorrow as I go to work and by the time I get home there is always a riot going on at the end of the day. DH is tired and fed up bless him, and I am not saying he is at fault bearing in mind he has fed them, bathed them for school, and cooked a roast for them all before I get home. big DD is stressed to the hilt because he has been and got perfume or something from her bag and I constantly get the well he did that or he did this from days ago. Its noisy with tv, computers and music and people and DS is leaping about on edge and on springs roaring close to meltdown and its me that has to wrap him in quilt when he does kicking and screaming.
I try to be diplomatic but at the end of the day when I wasnt here to see it all I cant issue consequences. DH has sent DS to his room etc as the norm. But my answer to them is YOU KNOW he will do it so why leave things out? I dont so my stuff doesnt get ruined. If it is precious HIDE IT etc. At the same time I do talk to DS about possessions and that people have to replace things. I have even made him use pocket money to replace DDs shampoo instead of buying himself a treat. He says sorry, but its as if it has completely gone out of the window and if I say why have you done this again? he looks blank as he cant remember he did?
They are right when they say its not on, or he shouldnt be doing this by now. But he has SN I feel like screaming at them and can they not let that sink in that he is different from how they tick?
Well I guess it is a moan lol