My Child's Not Perfect.

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ITV documentary on next week.

I had a rant in AIBU here but wondered what you lot think.

am I unreasonable to be bloody funing?

I agree that by showing some of the families as well off financially that may dispel some of the thinking of people that say ADHD and LDs are due to poor resources and poor parenting, which they also tend to associate with lower income families. (why, I don't know, as I have seen some pretty poor parenting in higher incomes as well )

The title was crap but thought the programme was quite good too. It was great to see them focus on the upper class as I do think some idiots believe if you have money you either don't have SN kids or that money can make it better.
Looking forward to next weeks.

I saw this.

My child has ASD and OCD. I thought the demographic showed these issues can affect anyone but didn't we know that already? David Cameron? The cousins of the Queen? It's not about poor parenting but the help available can and often is dependent on your income level. And let's not forget the postcode lottery of services on offer.

I was saddened to see the young boy, Adam? He was, to me, so obviously on the autistic spectrum that it makes me wonder what kind of "professionals" had previously assessed him. my own son was dx at age 4. We had help, such as it was, from that point on.

The title was emotive but it did make me want to watch the programme.

I live near Bramhall, and it is a 'posh' area, but I wouldn't go as far as to say nobody else has a SN child in that area. Bit a a sweeping statement by Adam's Mum. I can imagine the snobbery she encountered in the Doctors' waiting room, but that can happen to any of us in any area with a 'normal' looking child.

As for the narrator saying that because Adam didn't have a diagnosis, he had to be in a normal school, I don't agree with that. My boys were put in a SN nursery when they were 2. Now they are 7 and are in a SN school. We are still awaiting a definitive diagnosis (well we would be, but the bloody doctors have given up!). We just have various syndromes and symptoms but no overall explanation.

However, I'll watch it next week. It was interesting.

Anyone watch last nights?
The young man (12!) with a stammer was so mature! I cried for my own 12 year old (mod/sev LD with ASD so very different) And the harm the wrong diagnosis(attachment disorder) had done to the family of 9 year old girl,who has been treated as naughty ( but turned out to have ADHD and LD presumably mild)) - who did remind me of my son.
Tutu it is very hard to get into a sn schoolwithout a diagnosis especially in some authorities. Ds was in MS until 7 because he was assumed ( by the LEA) to be naughty. I knew he had LD ( and suspected autism) as did the teachers ( who were quite right when they said he did not undertand te word no - he did not understand much else either) but getting the authority to assess him was a nightmare. They picked on one area where he was age appropriate ( picking up pairs! - short term visual memory) and ignored everything else!) At 12 he still cannot write his name or brush his teeth.

Yes I watched it as DS is due to go to Maudsley and I wanted to see what they were like there. They seemed so nice and so different to down here :)

All 3 kids were amazing. I was totally jealous of the lovely house the boys parents had

I was in tears when the boy went into the shop to discuss cameras I actually found myself proud of him too let alone his dad :) And it was lovely to read that he was going back as a mentor to help others!

I felt for the little girl who had adhd and for her parents who carried the blame for their childs issues :( You could see the weight lifted from them when they were told that it wasnt their fault.

It was also interesting to hear about bulimia from the eldest girls experience too as I have no experience in this. What a mature young lady she was and what a battle she has had and hopefully winning :)

I watched the second episode. It was really nice to see all those children, and their parents, getting the help they needed.

Magso Sorry if I made a bit of a sweeping statement myself. Sometimes I forget that because my boys development issues were discovered so early on, that gave them the 'passport' for extra help and put right into into a SN school.

I apologise.

coff I too also felt for the parents that blamed themselves for their childs problems. I did that for many years (and still do to some extent).

Maudsley seems very well regarded from what I've read.

How terrible for that mum to be told her child had attachment disorder and it was her fault!! Glad they got help and she's now at a new school, maybe they will understand her better.
Lewis with his speech, did so well, very proud and also cried

Two very enlightening programs that shows the hardship parents and children cope with daily. Ultimately the children either improved or received a diagnosis which would allow them the help they needed.

I found it very moving and heartwarming to see the deep love and committment to their children these families showed.

The title should have been. 'People think my childs not perfect' as all SN children (all children come to that!) are perfect to their parents.

I think the title is weak to be honest. No-one's child is perfect! They'd have made more sense calling it 'My Child's not Normal' ... but that would have really pissed us off As for the context, I felt it stayed on track as it was supposed to be from the parents view point, I think. It would have become a political tool if they'd started on about waiting lists, diagnosis times, funding etc.