Coping with meltdowns

[jenk1]

DS is getting worse, meltdowns are happening on a daily basis now.

Yesterday he punched me and DH had to restrain him because he said "im going to batter mum", he is strong and im only 5,2, he is 9 and quite tall and is getting hard to manage.

We were talking about our holiday to Torquay in May and he started shouting that the drive was too long and that he needed to know exactly what time we would be stopping so that he could plan his eating times.

CAMHS appointment not for another 7 weeks and running out of things to try, we already do visual timetables and he can go to our room when everything gets too much but dont know what else to do.

can anyone offer some advice?

Tahnks

, today he pulled me back onto the pavement because "i wouldnt want a car to run you over even though you are my mum"

When i asked him to explain he said "you are useless and everythings your fault .

He seems to be blaming me for everything, i suspect that this has to do with dd getting a lot of my attention atm which unfortunately cant be helped.

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Don't know what to suggest Jenk. His thoughts are quite sophisticated aren't they? My DS isn't anything like this so I really don't know. I've got a friend whose DS is quite like this and I think she just manages it as best she can and he is on medication for anxiety.

Jenk

My 2 are younger so I don't really have any experience of this. I didn't want to leave the thread without posting though.

As far as the holiday goes, would it be possible to involve your ds in some of the planning? My dh is an adult but still gets very uneasy about things if he doesn't know in advance what exactly will/may be happening.

thanks CT and Davros for your replies, we are going to do DS a visual travel timetable for the holiday and he is in agreement with that.

His thoughts are sophisticated thats the problem, he has a very high IQ and is more knowledgable than me and DH put together, he has terrible tantrums though, we have thought about medicating for a while and will discuss that at the next appointment.

Its worrying when they are bigger and so strong my ds is 5 but the size of a 7yr old, i do wonder if i will have to medicate him in the future. As my teen ds did start getting physical and i couldn't cope. Although im happy to say he grew out of it but that depends on the condition. Re: timetable could you turn it into a bit of a game ie things to spot on the way, significant buildings on route, junctions turning off or stopping to eat etc to help keep his mind active.

my 6 yr old is like this regarding meltdowns,he was really good over xmas except 4 sibling rows as we didnt go anywhere over xmas but then bk 2 sch all change again first day not 2 bad just a very low key tantrum,then thursday was worse then yesterday it took me over an hr 2 get home as he sat down and wouldnt move,i got kicked in the nose,my neighbour thumped in the face whom tried 2 help carry him and each time he was put down he tried to run off.when dealing with this i try and keep it low key and calm.ive got his community nurse coming in with hv on 27th to discuss these issues and his sleep issues as well,maybe yr pead can refer you to a disability unit that can help.