tell me this isn't really what the SENCO said...

[tooearlymustdache]

please?

DD (4.6yrs) is undergoing assessment for possible ASD/Aspergers and is in reception class at school.

i've been asking the SENCO to help set up a bit of extra support for her, just a little extra check on her at lunch to make sure she gets time to eat, but we take things day to day and are very much at the 'see how we get on' phase until we have a formal DX

anyway....yesterday when i went to pick DD yesterday, her class teacher beckoned me and said 'she's having a meltdown, she can't find her coat' and i went in to find her at the back of the class in full meltdown mode.

the elastic for her gloves had been snapped , she was half dressed (cardigan missing) and her coat was nowhere to be found. she could not tell me how any of this happened

we eventually found her coat, in the home corner, inside one of the cupboards ( again) but our usual 20 mins walk home took us an hour.

i've just spoken to the SENCO at school, to ask if there is any possibility for a bit of extra support at hometime, to help her gather her stuff together, and we agreed that some prompt cards would be really useful.
i asked her if there was any person available to help her if she lost anything again and she told me (as near to a quote as possible)

'well maybe DD has to learn that sometimes we do lose things, and they do get broken'

Hmm post just got deleted - probably end up being posted twice now!

Arrghh!
So next time you say, 'yes teaching flexibility would great how about you design a flexibility programme setting out the steps of how you intend to teach that and we'll add it to her IEP, and as we'll need to work on that at home too let me know when I can come in and watch the programme being demonstrated'...and follow it up with an email about 'what you've agreed' when you get home!
Whilst muttering under your breath 'right back at ya'.

just the reply i needed as i'm about to go collect her now!

Sounds like a typical, uninformed comment that schools like to throw out. Like you haven't tried to put a little bit of flexibility into her day before this! Honestly, it doesn't surprise me. My ds's job share teacher said in response to my "DS didn't know you were in today, he wasn't warned, as agreed by psyc and school." said "Well he'll get used to it!". Honestly they don't get it they really don't sometimes.

And so..............regardless of the fact that they think she needs to learn to lose things..................it is ok to leave a child mount up into a full on hissy fit meltdown and watch not help?....................UNBELIEVABLE

i know coff33pot

i was, and still am, beside myself with anger and disbelief.

DH and i were being generous and hoping she wasn't really au fait with ASD but imogen, your explaination rings more true...