Camhs appt for ds tomorrow, he comes with us yes??

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which I'm fine about, obviously as the appointment is for him BUT i've got a lot to discuss about him and I feel awful about speaking about his problems in front of him, he gets very upset about people talking about him even if they are in a healthcare setting, very paranoid too and i know that he will have a meltdown afterwards.

Is it worth writing things down in bullet point form and handing it silently to the paed? or is this not ok. Ds dad is also coming with us too

I was amazed at our recent paed appt that we walked in (me dh and ds) and the paed said 'So, tell me about your concerns with his behaviour'
Who would expect parents to sit there and make a big list of negative points in front of their child? Even an NT child would hate that. I couldn't believe it.
I had many pages of notes to hand over but paed wanted to talk it over so dh took ds out to play in waiting area while I we talked.
I think you should definitely make a list else you'll come out and remember something you didn't mention also this can be included in your notes for future reference.
Is there any way you could take someone else with you to take ds outside, if not I guess you'll have to do what we did and one of you go out with your ds.

exactly pop, it seems ridiculous to do this to a child. I will sit tonight and write down a list of things ive noticed and get his dad to jot down anything when he sees us tomorrow. Unfortunately no one else can come with us tomorrow, its just us 3 and I'm not sure if ex will agree to take ds out. Of course ds (he is 12) can take himself out but then it will be obvious wont it.

I'll play it by ear, poor ds this is horrible for him.