Try and fit in

[AJcat]

DD (ASD) has just come in from school very upset due to a comment made by her teacher. DD has been upset about where she is sat in the classroom as the other children that sit with her ignore her, and keep putting things in her table space and on her chair. I have this week encouraged her to tell her teacher that this is making her feel very uncomfortable and could she help her to resolve this. Her teacher apprently replied " Try and fit in" Seriously is this not a bit insensitive???? DD thought so, as she explianed to me through much sobbing that this is what she does every day, all day and it is so hard. Bless her. I can feel a chat with her teacher is needed!!!!!!

That is very insensitive Poor dd, I think you do need to have a chat with her teacher.

Yep nice little chat needed....................

Tell the teacher she WAS insensitive and obviously doesnt understand that its the fitting in that is the major problem and that encouragement is the key not just for your poor DD but the others in her class to be more accepting and civil too.

If she is that unhappy and alientated then move her, watch who does interact or is more sensitive and caring in nature and put her with them. Not such a hard thing to do.......

Oh HOW I sympathise. I feel as if I am on permanent redial to the school sometimes. :( Yup def chat with teacher is required. Point her to internet sites about teaching ASD kids (there are many)

Her teacher is responsible for her wellbeing when she is at school. Pretty much agree with coff33pot. Ask if she can buddy up with some nice caring girl who will look out for her.I dunno what age your DD is,but sometimes tecahers do not think how insensitive their remarks are to kids.

DD is at secondary school, and seems not a week goes by but I am on the phone about something .Mostly it is supply/temp teachers that seem to get it all horribly wrong.

It could be that the other girls are just not thinking about what they are doing; but young girls can be nasty and calculating so they could be doing it deliberately, which is a form of bullying and the teacher needs to nip it in the bud.

Hmm, a little chat with the headteacher too, maybe. I wonder how much training the class teacher has had?

you know it really worries me the teachers that look after our children and how insensitive their comments can be, def. go in to talk to them there was no need for that!

I have spoken to her teacher today and she has said that she has sat her on that table to help her to get along with people that she is not friends with. I explained that DD is very upset about the situation and that i will leave it a few more days BUT she is going to need support - she needs support just to get on with the people she does like!!!!! Thanks for all your comments everyone it really does help to know that you are not alone.

What a stupid comment. If the your Dd doesn't even like these other children how can she possibly be expected to get on with them. The Teacher is being very dim.

Children with ASD need support to get on with people that they do like never mind the ones they don't.

Feel for your Dd hope you can get this sorted out.