Social Services comming in the morning......eek.

[XxAlisonxX]

iv very nicely been informed this afternoon that social services are comming to see us in the morning, to discuss with us about assessing our needs for help ect. im a bit unsure about this for she had said she will need to speak to the children ( is this normal) at some point, we have 2 SN children ( dd1 has very severe SLI ) and ds1 who has EBD with ODD, CD. aswell as 2NT little ones.

any advice, tips on what i should be asking or things to watch out for

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well iv just over an hour togo b4 they come, the house is a wreak, washing up still not done from last night, oh well. if they got a problem they can get me a cleaner pmsl. im not paniking really.

Remember they are coming to help you. Take deep breaths and smile sweetly.

You have 2 disabled children, they will expect the house to be a mess.

Good luck :)

Sorry Alison I can't help as I don't have any experience with them but I hope you get the best outcome for you and the kids and the best help they can offer.

I have been putting off contact with them, im not scared of them as my house is tidy, kids content most times but on a bad day if they had an equipment to measure my stress and exhaustion levels I'm sure I will break their machine...if that entitles me to help? :)

We're a week into them being involved. So far they've done what they've said they're doing with you. I think its called a core assessment. They've spoken with both children seperately (in play and kids didn't realise what was going really), spoken with me privately. They need to speak with dh privately which is happening this week. Given me a form to fill in. All very above board and all very friendly and nice.

Don't worry about the house being too messy, they need to see what life is really like. For me they've seen me ill and the house a tip and the feedback they've given to me so far is that my children are a delight and they can't begin to see how I'm managing to do everything that is required for my children but can see alot of it is being done but at the detriment of my health, career and the household chores. They say that the situation is not sustainable and I totally agree. What they're going to do about it is another matter though.

how did it go?

well i think it went ok, dont think she was over impressed with the state of the kids bedrooms( they had litrally trashed them over the weekend ) clothes everywhere, beds a mess, lol, she took loads ov info off us and said she will be back next monday once she has had change to speak to other people, im more shocked over the fact that she said ds1 doesnt fit there criteria (wtf) so we shall see what next week brings

Wish I had seen this earlier as might have been able to help, used to work for SS before my dd2 came along.
Glad it went well but don't be surprised if suddenly Hv plays an intrest
According to them we dont require any help

mmmm..when a similar comment was made to me I asked to see a written copy of their 'criteria' .Surprise,surprise they didn't have one