need a rant.....feeling low after getting a letter.

[crazygal]

hi all,
feeling abit low and paranoid today!
we seen the pead 3 weeks ago and she said our son has aspects of adhd....
i kept asking her to confirm if he had it or not,and she replied with,ill send it in writing,which we got last week,
it said our son does have mild adhd,i know thats not bad and it could be worse and all that,but i just feel low about it....
i feel judged at the school by others,i feel there talking about my son,parents have complained about him bullying,which i posted about before,and the teachers said no,he has not been bullying at all....
so i feel someone has been talking,i dont know,i hate when i feel like this,my husband says get over it....there boys,dont worry about it, etc...but thats eaier said..
today we got forms to fill in to see which middle school we should put them in,right now i want to move him away from everyone,and id bet they would all celebrate if they knew thats what i was thinking...
last year i spoke to parents at the school,
i looked after there children,2 children,every week on my only day off after school to help them,and to help my son mix better,when they broke up for summer hols,i asked if they could do a nite sitting so myself and my hubby could have a nite out,i got a no! one said they have saturday eves kept as family only,and the others were taking there kids out to the cinema,
there kids are in different classes now,and not a dickie bird since,no hellos,no how are you,nothing,and i know and see them going off to each others houses,i hate it....i feel so used.
i havent told anyone of my sons adhd,but i think they have an idea,
sorry guys,im ranting today,no ones understands!

Sounds like the mums at the school were using you as free childcare horrible people, clearly you need to learn the word no
Dont let it get to you too much, your doing your best.

You are doing your best, and it sounds like these people are using you. That says more about them than it does about you.

Sorry you are feeling isolated. Do you have people you can go to outside of the school, like a support group? I have found that the people that understand DS are the ones of have children like him, and they have become some of my best friends.

Sending you hugs x

Sending the mothers the biggest raspberry I can blow

Forget them they are a gossiping waste of space that used your good nature.

thank you guys,
im feeling alittle better now,had a glass of vino!
i just feel sad that people could do that,when i need a hand sometimes...
never mind,i keep my distance now,
i will look for a support group this week,i think its what i need,i dont know anyone who has a child with adhd,i know im not the only one,but i do feel like that were i live,and at school,
i asked the school was there anyone at the school i could talk to and they said no,that they dont deal with alot of sen children,
that most children with difficulties go to the other school in the area,

im finding the diagnosis hard to except,
even though i felt relieved when i first got the letter threw,
i suppose this is all normal to feel this way,
we WILL get there,xx

There's no need to keep your distance from other parents. Trust me, there are decent normal parents out there somewhere that you will click with at some point. There are a couple mums that drove me nuts at school, but amazingly there are a couple that I am happy to call friends - they are supportive and lovely, and we have been going out for a couple hours in the evening together once a week for awhile. It's really helped my stress level. And these are mums that do not have children with SNs, just children in the same class or year as my DS2.

Don't give up trying to find friends - you sometimes feel like you're beating your head against a wall, but it's worth it! Having a child with a disability or SN is so very isolating - it's easy to hide from everyone else sometimes - but it's not very healthy! I've only just realised that myself.