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ds behaviour - others reactions in public

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saladsandwich · 11/11/2011 19:25

so upset, i took ds to a drs appointment with me today, i had to take him with me i had no babysitter i'm a single parent with no help.

while in the drs appointment ds was being his usual little self, not sitting not listening after 3 minutes the dr told me i had to take ds out and he would see me without him... luckily my friend was in the waiting room so i got her to watch him for me or i would have had to go back next week on tuesday. it was for inhalers so i couldn't wait that long.... i just feel so sad for ds really, i said to the dr he's always like this and he just said "yes i remember him, but this appointment is for you not him and it's too distracting"

i was pulled over by nursery staff this week too, ds has been a little bit disruptive but the day after he was fine.

i don't know what to do, i've tried parent course but didn't work, i've been told to get him in the doctors for monday about his behaviour and to tell one of the other doctors there what happened. xx

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coff33pot · 11/11/2011 19:30

Hugs xx

Is it the school that has asked you to take him to the doctors? Has he been under a pead if so can you refer back to them? Ask the school for a log of events to take with you pehaps x

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saladsandwich · 11/11/2011 20:04

he's only 2 :( he's under paed and community paed, he sees the paeds in november and then another in december then he sees community paed in january some time, no appointment as yet though for that.

it's so hard, i know he's not easy but today it's just made it a whole lot worse x

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smallwhitecat · 11/11/2011 20:17

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coff33pot · 11/11/2011 20:43

oh bless him hes only 2!!! what did the GP expect? My old doc used to pick up ds when he was that age, plop him on his lap give him his stethascope or his pen and paper to play with and then say "whats up then mum?" Sadly hes retired and there are not that many left like that :(

They are bored, figity and curious at that age anyway :)

Dont take it to heart he was just a rude wally...........and nothing to do with parenting!! :)

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saladsandwich · 11/11/2011 20:50

well, i did blame myself abit because i didnt take his pushchair but ds can walk forever he walked about 4 miles before we got there so you'd think he'd be tired but no, he would have been screaming loud pitched too in the pushchair, he likes screaming.

i must admit ds did not sit for one second but i just feel we are becoming more and more alienated x

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coff33pot · 11/11/2011 21:54

my ds can scream and he is 6 :) after a while it feels the norm lol I just turn round and ask him not to where as before I used to cringe big time and feel all eyes on me. It gets easier the more you understand the reasons why they are screaming and you suddendly develope this protective backbone that doesnt give a toss :)

The doc was still wrong.

pigletmania · 11/11/2011 22:04

Your dr was very unprofessional. Your ds is only 2 what does he expect, for you to leave him at home Shock. He is still a baby and is usually with you. My Drs have always been fantastic when I have taken dd 4.6 along to my appointments. I would complain to the practice manager.

intothewest · 11/11/2011 23:08

Agree with others. Your doctor was totally in the wrong.I have to take DS with me sometimes...distracting..oh yes..but I have never had that response.

How are you? You sound as though you could do with some support. Beginning to feel alienated is not a good place to be.Sad

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saladsandwich · 11/11/2011 23:33

the drs i normally see are nice but this one is new-ish. infact one of them is very very good with ds and couldn't wish for a better dr.

people just think it's all down to me, they just see a naughty toddler and me not being able to control him. he shoved a baby to the ground at the last play group, not content with that he shoved her into the floor and carried on until i reached him, but i could tell he didnt understan the telling off, its hard to mingle with him being so rough, he does nothing but shove other kids, they only have to look at him or get in his space and he's so mean

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anniebear · 12/11/2011 07:55

thats totally terrible of your Doctor :o I am am shocked, who did he think you were going to leave you son with? a stranger? really bad of him

huge hugs to you xxx

Soutty · 12/11/2011 08:11

My DS was a lot like your DS at 2 but then there are lots of children who are hard work when they are 2. That's why they call it the terrible twos! Don't have much advice (apart from not to see that doctor again) but sending hugs anyway x

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saladsandwich · 12/11/2011 22:31

to top it off my own dad told me to take ds out of his house today, i called later and ds fell and burst all his lip and my dad blamed me. as if i dont blame myself enough, said i shouldnt have been on the phone ect ect just feel very lonely right now

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2old2beamum · 12/11/2011 22:45

I am disgusted with your GP I think he is in the wrong job. Your little lad is only 2. I would not let that man have the pleasure of yor son again! Take no notice he is very unprofessional ignorant pig. lots of hugs to you both. And while i'm about it tell your Dad to take a running jump.XX

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saladsandwich · 13/11/2011 22:36

i'm really busy tomorro but i've decided i'm going to book an appointment with one of the other gps about ds's behaviour and tell them what happened because they have both been lovely to us, one of them is especially nice to my boy.

i'm still in disbelief, my inhaler ran out today so it's a good job i had someone to watch ds in the waiting room or i' have been without a asthma pump i really need at the moment...

my dad as brought it round today though he's good to us he just cannot cope with ds, he is hard work, is dad as contact and i have to be there, i feel worn out to be honest btu the very people who could help need my help so they can see ds, it's a bloody nightmare thanks for being so kind i thought people may agree in part with the dr
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