Why did I get sucked in???? Why??? <<weeps>>

[Becaroooo]

Really judgy and horrid thread in AIBU atm (I know I know)

All about how terrible it is that parents dont read to their kids.

Some woman who volunteers at school and thinks she knows it all

So fucking sick of it all.

oh I saw that one the other day ...it's still there is it?

ah yes I can see why you're annoyed. Just hide it. Let them think what they want.

I know.

Just gets to me sometimes

Back away from it Becaroooo. It's not worth getting yourself would up over. It's pointless trying to change some people's views when they're so damned certain they're right.

I was going to PM you to tell you to drop it!

Yes the OP is a tosser.

But there is a lot of support from others on that thread.

Anyway - Back away

I am not going to look at the thread (I'm really, really, not.)

Click hide and console yourself with the fact that not everyone in the world is so ignorant, the are a few nice people around.

Not sure which one you mean. What's the thread called? Would like to make my own mind up.

i spent hours reading to my a.s.d son now he won't touch books hates reading and can't stand the feel of the paper on books. its hard to be enthusiastic about it with my new babies although I do it sometimes, but that thread was not thinking of sn children it was just all look at me I'm so perfect.

I tried to read to ds1 from an early age, but he grabs the book and throws away everytime so we decided to do something else which was actually useful. If that makes me a bad parent, so be it.......
Let it go becaroo, its not worth it....

Yep.

You are all right.

Am hiding it

x

Thanks everyone for your input.

If you tried to read the thread without seeing it as a personal attack I think you would understand it more. I am talking about a specific programme that the parents sign up for.

Yes I have a child with ASD, Dyspraxia and learning difficulties so I do understand what its like teaching a child who just doesnt want to do thier bloody reading, and I have sat here in tears because I just cant get him to even look at his rocket words, let alone try and recognise them.

Which is why I would never sign up for a programme like the one I am doing, because we couldnt do the input at night. I have tried to explain on that thread but you are all seeing it in some other light.

Indigo - thanks very much, you gave me some great help on my thread the other day about DS not being able to access the curriculum at school which really helped me.

Avoid Which is why parents should not help with literacy in schools IMHO.

I understand you mean well, but you arent qualified and the school get away with not providing trained staff/specific interventions for the specific problems of the individual child. I am sure the 10 kids you work with dont all have exactly the same issue with literacy? They arent all at exactly the same place wrt their learning? I question the efficacy of group based SP programmes anyway, but thats a whole other thread!!!

I argee the parents should do the work with them if they have signed their child up for it, but in practise, as you yourself must know as a parent, shit happens and stuff just doesnt get done....I am sure there are many households (like mine) where reading is done at the end of the day as a wind down and it sometimes goes haywire...late night/party to go to/illness/if I have to go out etc.

Sigh. Its just not always that easy, you know?

No I understand that, however we are 7 weeks into the reading programme (it runs for 10 weeks for each child) and there are some that havent read the books at home at all, not just a few missed nights, at all.

Its an individual programme, so I work with one child and then the next, its not a group as it wouldnt work like that, we have children from year 6 down to year 2. I have been doing this programme for 4 years and it does work well.

Avoid - Sorry I called you a tosser

I was trying to be supportive of Becarooo, because she needed it.

I can see both sides of the argument.

I don't know why other people don't read with their kids. I know there are a hundred reasons why I often don't read with my kids.

I live a sheltered life. I don't know anyone who doesn't care about their kids education. Maybe if I moved in different circles your post would sound different to me.

Ultimately you were there and we weren't. A post can't adequately describe all that you saw. If we were there we'd probably be equally sad.

But you just touched a raw nerve for me and Becarooo, both of whom are in danger of bringing up illiterate kids, and who are having a very rough time with school.

I (now) know you didn't mean that at all.

Can we be friends again? (Becarooo, that means you too!)

Group hug?

Of course :)

And I do know how you feel about the danger of bringing up an illiterate child, I am too.:(

You're very strong to be able to go into school and support other kids, when you're having so many troubles with your own.

Very strong.

I don't think I'll ever recover from these trying times with DD. I don't think even when she can read brilliantly I'll be able to put it behind me.....

Ok, So I've found your prev thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/1328614-I-posted-this-in-Primary-Education

Any updates? Is DS doing better now?

Not really - we have a meeting on the 23rd where we are going to discuss where we go from here. The Ed Psych and Inclusion worker want to push with this school placement. School are saying that they cannot do alot with him and they dont see that changing. He is only in part time.

I am waiting to see the outcome of this meeting to see whether to push for a SA.

I like to keep busy - if I dont then all I do is dwell about it. I like doing the reading programme because it in some way helps me. Even if I cant help DS if I can help someone else it eases the worry and guilt a little if that makes sense.

avoid
I was looking for a foot in the mouth smiley, but couldn't find one.
My apologies, if I have offended you in any way, tht was not my intention.

Is it ECAR you are doing avoid ??

Your thread touched a very raw nerve with me (as I am sure you have gathered!)

I wish I knew the answers, but I dont, but demonising other parents isnt it.

avoid Who says you arent helping your ds?????!! I hope the meeting on 23rd goes well for you (dont think I will be having another one anytime soon...the relationship between me and HT has pretty much broken down)

If you are volunteering to help other kids that is a good thing. But you cant ascribe your feelings/intentions to others....sure way to heartache