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Should I be concerned - school issue

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ReindeerBollocks · 06/11/2011 21:57

DS has a medical condition, which requires a lot of intervention to keep him well. He attends mainstream school and his previous school (and friends) have always been fabulous, very accommodating, and just accepted him for who he is.

However, he moved recently and his medical issues seem to be a 'big' issue for the new school (despite them saying they would be ok with it). Then there are the other students, most of whom are accepting of DS, but there is one child who keeps raising the issue of DS's condition (usually with some smart arse comment). I assisted on a school trip recently and heard this young boy say in a sneers tone 'so what's wrong with you again'. The boy became very quiet when DS said to me 'should I answer that mum'.

Today, DS has been at a party and this boy was also in attendance, he apparently made fun of DS's inability to keep up with his peers in their activity then threatened to punch DS in his stomach - DS has a mini button gastrostomy, which the class (this boy included) were made aware of when DS first started.

I am really concerned as we have always encouraged DS to be proud of who he is, and although his medical condition is part of him he isn't embarrassed or ashamed of it (neither does he use it to brag or gain sympathy), it's just a part of him. I am worried that this boy is using his medical condition to try and belittled (reluctant to use the word bully) DS, and that this boy will encourage others to do the same towards DS.

Am I right to think that we should notify the school about this boys behaviour towards DS? I am worried as the school are just getting to grips with DS, and I don't want to single him out, but equally I don't want this other boy thinking that DS's condition is cannon fodder for the playground. They are KS2, and DH thinks I'm overreacting maybe I am just a little bit?.

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ReindeerBollocks · 06/11/2011 21:58

*sneery

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starfishmummy · 06/11/2011 22:45

I think i would want a quiet word with the teacher to start with. I know it's difficult, because as you say, it could single him out, but the other boy's attitude is wrong and is bullying. Maybe just ask for a chat to discuss how your ds settling in/getting on with the others and take it from there?

cory · 07/11/2011 08:11

I'd have a quiet word with the teacher.

magso · 07/11/2011 08:35

I would consider a (friendly) note to the SENCO if speaking to the teacher does not suffice.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 07/11/2011 08:58

I would have a word with the class teacher to start with.

lisad123 · 07/11/2011 09:16

I would have a word with the class teacher. And it is bullying, and is not acceptable.

coff33pot · 07/11/2011 11:12

I agree with everyone else that you should have a word with the teacher and ask them to keep an eye on things.

Best to nip it in the bud now than leave things escalate and get out of hand.

raspberryroop · 07/11/2011 11:19

Use the word bulling because that's what it is !

ReindeerBollocks · 07/11/2011 21:04

Thanks everyone, I'll have a word with the teacher tomorrow, and ask her not to make a big deal out of it, but just to keep an eye out.

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