It never rains, but it pours.....

[dev9aug]

How I feel like that right now.... Not sure what I am looking for but just feel like i need to unload somewhere... Hope you guys don't mind.

July
got burgled... Don't care about stuff, but lost some very precious photos videos of DS.. Still upset about that
Was told Ds might have some form of communication disorder, first time we started to be concerned about DS as before everybody incl his paed said that he was just delayed... He was born at 24 weeks gestattion.

September
Wife broke her foot, 5.5 months pregnant foot still not healed yet.
Had emergency stitch put in because of risk of misscarriage at 19 weeks.

And finally today what we have been dreading for ages... Her water broke at 26+5 so she has been admitted. Will probably go into labour soon, so back to the same old crap with what we went through with the first one being in intensive care.

I know reading on here that some of you have been through/ going through worse, but I just wish all the bad stuff would stop... Just have had enough... Words of reassurance and kindness would be very appreciated. Thanks.

I'm so sorry dev you must be so worried and dreading going through it all again. My thoughts are with you all, your son was 24 weeks which is early and he's pulled through. I hope this gives you comfort over the next few days. 27 weeks is a big difference to 24. My brother was early too and no problems. Thinking of you, stay strong for your wife, here if you need us x

Keep your chin up for your family, life can be crap some times but there are lots of people who really care. Good luck and keep us updated Take care xx
Hope the burglers got caught.

Thanks Mango we have been prepared for it for a while, but we thought it was all going so well until this morning.

2old2be thanks for the kind words and i know I have got to stay strong for the family.
The burglars never did caught unfortunately. We did find DW favourite wallet at lost and found so that was some consolation.. :-)

DW has had steroids to make sure the babys lungs are matured and she is on antibiotics. She hasn't gone into labour yet, so we are hoping that it drags on for as long as it can. The longer the baby stays in her womb the better. Last time she went ino labour on friday morning and she delievered on Sunday night so fingers crossed that we have a few more days left yet, but with the luck we are having, can't say anything for sure.

the baby is in breach position so it will most likely be a caesarian, which is probably scaring my wife more than the preterm birth. I wish I could be there with her but got no family here, so got to stay at home and look after the little one...

Got an appointment with Daphne Keen tomorrow so hoping that we will get some answers with regards to ds.

I know I sound so bloody miserable...but the talking helps and thanks for listening.

Don't blame you for being miserable, you have a lot on your plate right now. Please keep posting if it's helping you.

I don't know what to say apart from best of luck. It's a very tough time for you all x

Feel free to rant and share your pain. Sounds like you are really going through the mill at the moment. Hope things pick up for you all soon.

Hope it goes well with dk tomorrow, please expect it to hurt whatever the outcome. It does, but you'll be ok, you're already doing an amazing job and being such a supportive partner, you can't do anymore. Hopefully things will get easier for you. Thinking of you.

Sending you all hugs dev I am so sorry you are having such a bad time and all such at once.

If it helps my brother was 27 weeks and weighed not even half a small bag of sugar. He actually had dolls clothes on him and they fell off. Now he is in his 40s and is a strong six footer with a lovely family so try not to worry although that is easier said than done.

Daphne Keen is said to be very good and highly thought of on this board so I am sure you will have some good positive answers from her.

Thinking of you all x

oh you poor things, you have every right to feel down

will be thinking of you and your wife lots, hope all goes ok, let us know

xxx

I am so sorry to hear what an awful time your family is going through.

You sound like an amazing husband and father and your strength comes through in your posts. You don't sound bloody miserable at all, just understandably worried, stressed and in need of some reassurance and support.

My Mum was born at 24 weeks 65 years ago. She had co-ordination and a few other problems as a child, but eventually caught up and went on to become and Clinical Psycholgist, highly respected in her field, a mum to 3 dds, grandmother to 6 and great grandmother to 2 - so far. Which just goes to show how things that seem bleak at first can turn out better than you could have dreamed. I really hope this is true for you and your family.

Good luck with your appointment with Daphne Keen tomorrow and I hope the little one decides to stay put for as long as possible.

Sending much love and light. x

I'd be surprised if you weren't miserable. What a tough few years.

But please be positive about the pregnancy. It's not great, but nor is it necessarily anything to worry about.

Take care and good luck. Do you know if boy or girl?

Just off to bed big hugs to you allxxxxx

Look tell your wife not to be scared about CS. It's usually very straightforward, takes about 40 min and the pain relief provided afterwards makes sure she won't feel any pain. She will be fully concious, if she wants to breastfeed, they will give her the baby. Where are you? If in London, I can share a babysitter for when your wife giving birth if u need. Best of luck for everything!

Thanks everyone..

Starlight, we don't know what it is, we are hoping for a surprise.

Ds was born at 24 weeks and after the initial difficulties, he is fine, apart from development issues, so not so worried about the preterm birth.

I am more worried about DW as she is terrified of the thought of having a caesarian.

Anyhow, off to bed now.
Thank you again.

Best of luck to you - sounds like there's been a lot of stress. Feel free to vent here, we all do. Keeps us sane!

Hi Dev, how are things today? Hope your wiofe is OK and that baby is staying put!

Tell your DW there is nothing to worry about the CS at all. :) My son was wedged breach (his feet were stuck in my pelvis) Had a emergency CS and my DH looked like a short george clooney in his oversized hospital ER stuff! you dont feel a thing and thats a def promise on that. You can still feed your baby and they will help her and give pain relief afterwards. I left hospital after 24 hours as rather be at home. She will be on top of the world in a few weeks. Its still amazing to see your child born and there is the advantage of a tummy tuck after! :)

Hope all is well today x

Hope the appointment was helpful to you and your wife is feeling ok.

We have good news.. I am the proud father of another baby boy. He was born at 2.15 pm. Its was a c/s after all and wife was ok about it. She have birth while I was on my way to Dr Keen's office where we were given a working diagnosis for ds1 of autism, which we suspected anyway.
So its kind of a bitter sweet day really, but right now I don't care, we have a plan for ds1 and ds2 is doing well so far. Fingers crossed that everything will go smoothly. So have a glass of on me everyone. And have a happy weekend.

paribus thanks for the offer, we are not in london unfortunately, we are certainly thinking of moving there after the wonderful things dr keen mentioned about it today, Wandsworth maybe...

So happy for you! congratulations! 2 beautiful boys. We have a working diagnosis too. DS said his first words today, I think you'll be happy with your decision to do ABA/VB. Wishing your wife a sporty recovery. :)

So happy for you! congratulations! 2 beautiful boys. We have a working diagnosis too. DS said his first words today, I think you'll be happy with your decision to do ABA/VB. Wishing your wife a speedy recovery. :)

Sorry double post and typo! That's how excited I am! :)

That is awesome News Mango.... I am certainly looking forward to starting as soon as possible.
Thanks for ur wishes, wife is in good spirits, alhough that could just be the drugs. ;-)

Just popping over from Friday Night to check everything is going well. Congratulations!