Hello Ladies,
come one, come all.
my current problem, I have a few:
- DS has been given a full on dx of Autism/ASD (no surprise there). However, they feel he does not have Selective Mutism because Selective Mutism presents as being absolutely quiet in social situations. He's not, he now is absolutely quiet around new people, babbles around people he see's often and talks to people he sees and spends lots of time with. (which we are happy about).
According to his NHS professionals: The fact that DS talks in varying degrees across varying people and behaves absolutely different in different scenarios is 100% indicative of just ASD. Nothing more and nothing less. I disagree. I feel like there is something more going on and that if we dig deeper, possibly we'll find something else to work on. You can't work on a problem if you can't identify it.
I don't want him to come across the love of his life and just stare at him/her blankly. I want him to have the ability to walk over and say 'How you doin?!'
- Family therapist who was assigned to us through CAMHS feels that she can no longer help us (she never helped us anyway, all she did was want to know exactly how much rent we pay, what my husband does for a living and why I get my eyebrows done; and feels that we should divorce for the sake of DS--but she can't put a finger on why) because she feels that I am disillusioned to my son's current abilities. He has autism so he cannot know his colors/numbers/letters. (She says I'm making this up). She has sent a letter stating this to Me, DS's nursery and a few other health professionals.
I understand she doesn't want to see us, heck--I've been trying to get her off my back for months, but why send this letter to everyone? Am I really crazy?
- I have had to take DS out of nursery because he has had a few serious staph infections while being there, he is not receiving any one on one support like his IEP had stated and he was caught playing with wasps by three of my friends when they went to pick up their boys. They immediately stopped him, but his nursery really should have been watching out for this.
His nursery feel that I should not take him out because his Autism has limited him, but they all love him and he's happy there (he's not, he says so). They also have no evidence of him ever saying a single word there, despite him telling them he has done a poo (I've heard him say, "I did a poopoo" to his key worker a few times.) To be fair, I don't think his nursery is bad, I just feel there are too many children and the workers could pay a little more attention to all the kids--but then again, there are 87 other children there).
It is a private nursery, and I'm taking my son out, but so are three other mothers who also feel their kids are not getting adequate attention. The same three friends who caught my DS playing with a wasp and complained three separate times.
I sound so crazy. I feel like maybe I need a vacation. RGO copy this and send it to E will you?
thanks,
Z