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Help.it's only day one

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anniebear · 22/12/2005 13:33

and I am cracking up!

Ellie seems to have done nothing but scream and I would love nothing more for School to be open through the holidays

Feel very bad thinking that.

I am trying hard....... Have took them to a garden centre to see the decs and went in the cafe, that was ok apart from when my mum went out to use her mobile and Ellie wasn't pleased, also when my Mum got our drinks. Ellie doesn't like anyone to move away so that wasn't good

Then have tried to make choc decorations with them. Grace loved it and Elie screamed through most of it

My ears and head are hurting and they only broke up at 3.30 yesterday!!

Just wanted a moan

Thanks !!

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MrsFrostgetful · 22/12/2005 14:09

i was feeling the same yesterday...today they are all at their autism club..i'm meant to be bulldozing (well...clearing!!!) our bedroom as you cannot move for junk...and here i am on MN...

I thought of u yesterday cos my friend told me about her friend's 9 yr old who is autistic...but also got menengitis last month- she says she didn'r recognise the lad...he has lost all speech now.

snd i remembered you telling us about that silly woman who thinks menengitis just happens to thers.

so ...there you go...you were in my thoughtsXXX

BoozyChristmacwoozy · 22/12/2005 14:43

I agree, it's not so much counting the days till xmas day, but counting the days till school reopens. I always have a few ideas to try and amuse my ds through the hols but it never goes to plan, and then I end up feeling guilty that I'm not enjoying the time that I spend with ds. Yesterday I was feeling under the weather and was being physically sick in the bathroon, in walks in ds, I though that he might just be a little concerned, no chance, he just brought in his cup and ordered me to get him a drink, and promptly walked out again.

sparklymieow · 22/12/2005 14:45

all I can say is......... thank god for playschemes!!!! Do you have any need you???

itllbelonelythisdavros · 22/12/2005 16:17

I have just started to think about crapping myself about AFTER Xmas day, hadn't thought about that! At least DH is around.

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anniebear · 22/12/2005 20:41

Thanks Mrs F, thats nice!!

No Playschemes, but I do have DH off for a week so I shouldn't moan really. But Ellie just wants me all of the time so although he is willing to give me a break from the Girls she is stuck to me like my shadow!

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COPPERfeelunderSantasTOP · 22/12/2005 21:24

I spent the afternoon in town with ds1 and ds2. Very much a Jekyll and Hyde experience. A whole range of people came over to tell me how lovely both boys were. I was on the verge of feeling smug when ds1 burst into tears because we had to leave a shop to go and find a toilet for him. He eventually calmed down when I promised that we would return to the shop straight after. This was followed by ds2 screaming blue murder for the next 25 minutes because we had deviated from the usual route. And I so wish that people would stop setting up fairground rides in the middle of town on our usual route. It's absolute hell trying to get ds2 past them.

I'm very of those of you who have playschemes at this time of year. I thought we were doing well to get 2 weeks in the summer holidays!

MrsFrostgetful · 22/12/2005 23:33

yhey came back having made tree decorations and tom and alex alao made gorgeous rudolph string puppets! leigh also stuck his name labels on the tree with the decorations...i have managed to persuade him that i don't want the labels on the tree...just his fantastic decoration!!!

(i sent them off firmly this morning with the instruction that i wanted them all to make me 1 treasure...as usually tom won't take part in anything crafty...and leigh prefers the sensory room.... so i spent the last week explaining to them how special their treasures are to me...how i will keep them and look at them every year etc....really laid it on thick...and am so happy they all made several decorations....it just hits me as cos all they do is play playstations...that i have hardly any 'souveneirs' to keep...as they don't draw mummy lovely pictures etc!!!
i take photoes of what tom does on the computer...i take photoes of leighs peg mosaics...and i keep alex's 'signs' he keeps making telling us where and what we can do or go....he likes order...and has started drawing arrow signs telling us which way to go...i have had to hide sellotape as he stuck loads to our wallpaper...then ripped it off..taking wallpaper too.

COPPERfeelunderSantasTOP · 23/12/2005 17:12

It's only the 2nd day of the holidays and poor ds1 really isn't coping well. He's so withdrawn that I'm now wondering if he's starting to come down with something. Poor ds2 gets shouted at (by ds1) every time he goes anywhere near him. Ds1 has spent most of the day either sitting on the stairs (his own choice) or on the computer.

DanceOfThePeachyPlumFairy · 23/12/2005 18:13

I was really optimistic about these holidays- ha!

Haven't left the house for three days as DH on shift and Sam shoplifting again.

Oh the joys!

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anniebear · 23/12/2005 21:55

I feel really bad as I have a friend who lost her 11 month old little boy last January and I know she would give anything to have him back and I keep moaning about how much hard work mine are

I just wish I could enjoy being with them a lot more than I do

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MrsFrostgetful · 24/12/2005 08:50

yes annie...i cannot imagine how anyone copes at chrismas when they have lost someone close..esp a child....christmas just hits home what is missing.

so like you i have tried to take a step back from it all and 'manage' better...and try and ENJOY my time ....you said ellie shadows you.... i have that problem too...and it's awful to say that sometimes i feel my kids are like a rash...i want to scratch...and they don't leave me alone...then i think of all those without their kids...and feel awful. sometimes my boys are so VERBAL it is untrue...and i wish they'd SHUT UP...then i read on here all those families with kids who cannot speak...and i am reminded what a cow i am!!!!

So....yes... annie...we have to be thankful- but at this moment when my 3 are chucking pillows around...and tom is shouting ....and alex is screaming...and leigh is shrieking...and aleax is provoking etc.... and leigh is reacting.... and tom is being inapproprriate....well...iits hard.

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anniebear · 24/12/2005 16:51

Your not a cow at all!!

Yes it is hard

Like I always say, there are people much better off then us and people much worse off

Everyones problems and upsets are bad to them whatever others situations are

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Blossomgoodwill · 24/12/2005 17:18

Annie - just wondering if you have considered a play scheme for the girls to go to. Mine have been for 2 days this week and it's been a god send. It's funded by SS and dd is supported 4:1 (which is what she needs). Since having DP's agreed SS also agreed to 2 days per week for both of mine to go to this playscheme. They can go from 8.45-5.15 which I think is too long so usually take them from 10.30-4 ish. It does make such a difference!
You could even do what I do and on some days just send dd so I can do things with ds that dd finds hard.

itllbelonelythisdavros · 24/12/2005 17:45

My Soc Svs playscheme doesn't run at Xmas, boo hoo. I've managed to get DS some days at 2 schemes run by charities but I have to pay for them.... worth every penny mind you.

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anniebear · 24/12/2005 21:06

There wouldn't have been anything as they only broke up on Wednesday, so I only had them Thurs and Friday (enough though!!!)

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