Son with asperges hurting peers

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hi all I hope someone can help, my son was diagnosed with asperges in may and since the diagnosis things had improved, I was calmer sand my son seemed alot calmer too. However since starting year 2 with a class change and a new teacher to th school and he seems worse than he ever was, he gets so frustrated so quickly and the quickest (for him) to stop whatever is frustrating him is to hit, pinch or kick. At home we have used the traffic light system which has helped so school have started to use this too but so far it doesn't seem to be helping him. There is a lovely side to my son that he is not able to show at school and all I hear from other children is that my son is naughty........any advice as to how I can help him deal with his frustration? I know I need to grow a thicker skin but am finding it all so upsetting.

is this happening in class or playground or both? in the class is it possible for him to have a a4 scribble pad, so when he starts getting upset/angry with someone he can write or scribble his anger out instead of pinching or kicking i know this is easier said than done but it helped my dd to write down what she wanted to do to ppl who upset her and put it in the bin afterwards

Hi mainly in the playground where there is not a lot of structure, I've just picked him up and he hurt someone today because they hurt his friend, mixed emotions! Happy he is sticking up for his friend and recognising that what the other boy was doing was not right and a little upset (even though I see why) because he hurt someone. The teacher is very understanding of him so if needed we could introduce the pad

Thank you

Year 2, new class, new teacher more practical work input and less sensory play, learning activities as they prepare for Junior school. Big changes for a little boy. I do understand as my DS (also year 2) is also the "naughty boy"

Does he have a 1 to 1 to guide him through the day? Maybe help her to learn the signs of frustration that are building up and so can immediately remove him or placate the situation?

My DS is a runner rather than a hitter but that said if not left to run and is cornered then all hell breaks lose.

You need school to be dealing with this. They need to put something in place during break so that he doesn't hurt other kids.

They can put him in a lunchtime club, or assign him a TA, or do something else.

At breaktimes the noise and chaos is like sitting in an avalanche of incoming sensory info for many of us. Even I can't cope with playground time, and I'm an adult on the autism spectrum . When I'm doing schools work, I have to find somewhere else to be during lunch etc.

It helps me to have a quiet place to go to during breaks. It would also help if the school did a 'sensory audit' of the new classroom (which some of us on the autism spectrum can do - contact local charity). It could be that he's sitting under flickery lighting or near whirring computers in the new class and people haven't realised what it's like for him.

Hello thank you so much for your advice, at the moment he does not have any 1:1 if behaviour continues like this I do believe the school will support him. Thank you again just hearing from people that understand has helped me today.

hi, I have just posted on the same topic! My son has just just started yr 2 and hit someone in the playground this week. Feeling your pain! He doesn't get any 1:1 at the mo and we are considering starting the statement process.
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Oh let me know how you get on! Big hugs

Hi my 10yr old son is getting tested for asperges I have had the questionaires for school and myself he's constantly hurting his brother and other people at school he's angry all the time he can't seem to cope with any emotions he throws himself into walls and doors kicks me wen I'm trying to calm him down I try to let him play out with his friends but I get constant messages telling me to control my son I feel I need to keep him in but feel so guilty at the same I'm finding it really hard he has no road sence no sence of danger I'm just hoping once I get the questionaire back from school I can get some kind of help for him he needs to b watched 24/7......:( xx