I've been finding the SN thread a brilliant help during this year, as my DD had speech & lang delay, and subsequently been going through assessment for ASD - largely thanks to MNs info, which pushed me in the right direction to get her help. I'd be grateful if anyone could share their experience of having done assessment/diagnosis where their DC met 2/3 of the Triad, but not all 3/3 (hope that makes sense, not sure how to phrase it).
What happens then? Does that mean no diagnosis at all? Is there something else you can be diagnosed with ('communication disorder'? or does that not really exist?) Does it mean 'atypical autism'? Do you get left in limbo with no help at school etc?
To explain the background, my DD (2.3) clearly meets the first two criteria (eg she has never done pointing/sharing, doesn't use gesture, her eye-contact used to be very limited, though it's improving, she has speech delay etc, and doesn't do much pretend play, etc). But, we're not sure that she has the inflexibility/rigid routines aspect. She's certainly difficult to look after & wants to do things her own way (but that may just be typical toddler or might just be her personality as she's always been like that); she was obsessed with books from 8 months old until recently, but is starting to find other things interesting (like climbing....).
Sorry for the long post, I wish I could be more concise. We have a 'multi agency' meeting approaching & I'd like to know what to expect if she isn't 'classic ASD'. Any advice or info would be much appreciated. Apologies if I've used the wrong terms.