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How do you keep your home clean or tidy? I really really can't do it?!

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smugtandemfeeder · 20/08/2011 21:05

There is dirt on the dirt. Everyone except me and DH has weed and pooed on the sofa and all the carpets. The laptop hard drive has broken for the second time due to DS being rough with it. We have mess everywhere. As soon as I put stuff away DS sort of rolls it all back out again. There is a pile of clean nappies on the sitting room floor which DS has 'sprinkled' flour all over. There are numerous little bags full of random shit which DS has collected and stored throughout the house.

I can't keep on top of it.

And don't even get me started on the washing.....

Is there any point getting a new sofa or new carpets?

It's utter chaos and madness here.

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TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 30/08/2011 15:25

excellent.

justaboutWILLfinishherthesis · 30/08/2011 15:30

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smugtandemfeeder · 30/08/2011 15:49

Well after the shame of the cleaner incident last night and combined with DH and DS being away I have been cleaning through the night! The sitting room is now almost empty and looks much tidier (obviously ) and I have tidied the nursery, the airing cupboard. Everywhere.

DH and DS are now home again and the screaming and general neediness from both has resumed. Sigh.

Justa so excited you are getting ikea leather sofas. Which one did you decide to get?

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imogengladheart · 30/08/2011 16:44

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coff33pot · 30/08/2011 16:53

Hope you are sitting down................................I have bought two new sofas............yessss you heard right lol

Through DFS their sale is about to end online. Been looking for weeks but the only one with covers my granny would prefer....

Phoned them up and no all sofas are not washable so they say HOWEVER they will stainguard it for you £90 for 3 seater and it goes down in price with the size ie chair. ALSO you are covered for 5years if the sofa gets stained. Some of the things they cover are dye, curry, juice, paint, burns and last but not least URINE!!!! (says pet but a stain is a stain lol) They give you a direct number to call and someone comes out and will specialist clean it. If it cant be cleaned (like paint, burn) they will reupholster the lot or replace any cushions.

Just thought that might be an added peace of mind for you all if you like me dont want a granny sofa!

used2bthin · 30/08/2011 17:13

Thanks I think I felt embarassed as I wasn't working at the time. But then neither are lots of women I know who have cleaners more often the difference is thier husbands pay I guess where as I used carers allowance. Anyway I would do it all again tbh if DP would let me! I have the EKTOP sofa in the garage as since moving in with P we use his leather one bought at DFS at great expense-he is so funny about it we had throws over it for ages after we moved in together as he was worrie DD or her friends would get stuff on it. It actually wipes clean quite easily and only has a stain where my dad sat on it with a leaky biro in his pocket.

YinLi · 30/08/2011 18:03

Hi all. We have cork flooring all over the house, it has I think 6 layers of coating (varnish), so no cracks, it's really easy to clean and it's soft and warm (we like to go barefoot a lot). I also have rugs here and there, which I take to a coin-op laundry now and then, or just throw them out and buy new ones at the market.

justaboutWILLfinishherthesis · 30/08/2011 18:22

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mariamagdalena · 30/08/2011 22:45

This thread is so inspiring. I have now filled the big bin and 3 enormous boxes with stuff I am fed up of picking up again and again and again. None of it ever really gets played with anyway, we have a very, very limited family repertoire of about 5 'games'. [maria wonders if the younger 2 are nt emoticon]

Am going to quarantine the boxes for a few weeks to see if any of the items are reclaimed as my-favourite-of-all-times. And then, 3 of these and a strictly enforced one-out-one-in policy.

Mwahahaha...

TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission · 31/08/2011 08:02

this thread should get commission for boosting sofa sales

becaroo, I had spd during my last pregnancy that just hasn't gone away and that's not helping, it's not fun is it?! My gp isn't great admittedly, I can sit there and get everything I need for dd3 no trouble but when it comes to myself I just don't seem to have the energy left to argue with her and I don't really know what I should be asking for. Did you get anywhere with the osteopathy?

Becaroooo · 31/08/2011 08:42

Am looking into it atm ninja...it did help when I last had some (about 2 years ago) but that was before I found out about the RA.

I have some weight to lose too...but hard to do when you arent so mobile/cant exercise

Oh, another tip for creating the illusion of a clean house....febreeze I febreeze the crap out of everything!!

Calally · 31/08/2011 10:10

havent been on for awhile. but reading through this i feel relieved. i used to think it was just me. but i can relate to the peeing on the carpet, seetee, bed etc. sick and tired of cleaning the walls from where something has been thrown, usually coco pops. curtains hang on a curtain pole, but theres no end on 1 side, so the curtain hangs of there, its got lost somewhere. we did have a shelf above the tv that was drilled to the wall, however when tv broke, ds went of on one, swinging / hanging from the shelf, so now it hangs off the wall. the roller blind in the bedrooms broke, from ds being so rough with it. the oven door doesnt close, from ds opening it to climb on it to get things from the cupboard. i hate having visitors, and dont encourage it, apart from a few friends, who understand. however, we have family visiting, my dads aunt, and my cousin ( from new zealand ) both of whom have said they would like to come and stay with me for a few days. im screaming no, and my dads sayin, yes im sure she'd love that. ( he just doesnt get it ) and hes now moaning, my house better be up to standard, clean tidy, etc, fit for the queen. dont know how im getting out of this 1

Becaroooo · 31/08/2011 13:24

calally that is very harsh of your dad. If he feels your house is "not up to standard" perhaps he will come and help you clean it????

Sorry you are so stressed about it, but completely understand why you are.

Would it be an option to remove the broken roller blind altogether and just put up black out material at night (I have to say blackout fabric never worked for us, but others swear by it!)

Wrt the door, could your dad help you rehang it?

As for the shelf, take it down..one less thing to worry about!

coff33pot · 31/08/2011 14:48

calally You get out of it by just saying NO its not happening and tell your dad to book them a B & B.

Write to your family and tell them that you would love to have them stay but the house is just not big enough with your DS the way he is. And that it will be far more enjoyable and less stressful for you if they stayed elsewhere and you can visit and enjoy their company. Dont pretend just say it like it is.

If Dad dont like it then Dad can accommodate them cant he? or come round and pull his sleeves up and help you by picking up a paintbrush.

Take whats left of the shelf off the wall and polyfilla the holes and sandpaper it flat then slap some emulsion (or if you can washable paint) around. As for the curtain pole I still currently have one that is resting on top of the rings due to them snapping (DS sigh) DS has curtains in his room and the pole lost an end so I disguised it by using a hairband the same colour as the wood just before the last ring, looped it around the second wooden ring so that wouldnt slide and upped the curtains a level to hide it

ouryve · 31/08/2011 16:23

Completely agreeing with the others, calally.

Don't let your dad impose on you like that. He can sort out accommodation for them, himself.

And do take down the loose shelf, etc - if anything, as well as looking awful and depressing you, they're now dangerous.

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smugtandemfeeder · 31/08/2011 20:42

Well, the long awaited cleaner arrived today. She has done an excellent job, I feel much brighter about our home now. I asked her to clean our dining table and highchair. It took her 45 minutes to clean them. Bloody hell! there was that much weetabix stuck to it!! 45 minutes I tell you!

£30 very well spent!

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coff33pot · 31/08/2011 22:14

She needs to get a hammer and chisel like me comes off in at least 25 mins lol

does she charge £30 an hour? Glad you feel better

Ben10WasTheSpawnNowWeLoveLego · 01/09/2011 08:08

How many hours was she there for?

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smugtandemfeeder · 01/09/2011 09:45

3 hours in total and had her DH with her so double the work I guess. double the work I guess.

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Ben10WasTheSpawnNowWeLoveLego · 01/09/2011 11:01

Thats cheap then! I pay £9 per hour for one cleaner 2 hrs pw. You get yours for £4.50 ph each

I'm pleased it's working out and that gives you one less thing to have to worry about. How was your first day back BTW?

justaboutWILLfinishherthesis · 01/09/2011 13:32

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elliejjtiny · 03/09/2011 23:33

I had a volunteer from Barnardos come and help me with cleaning for a while. He was an angel and even taught DS1 that men can do housework which was something he hadn't been aware of before.

coff33pot · 04/09/2011 21:55

Teaching men to do housework!! ...................get me his number!!!

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