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feel guilty about dla

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hannahsmummsy · 19/08/2011 20:05

i know this sounds crazy but i feel guilty about dd dla. i thought shed get turned down. shes on sa+ , under specialist physio, tier3 chams, has difficultys socialy but no dx, if you saw her you would wonder what was wrong.

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Verahaspurpletwuntypants · 19/08/2011 20:10

She would have got it because she requires more care (assuming it's the care side) than a child who doesn't require DLA.
They don't just award DLA to anybody. Don't feel guilty. See more as recognition of the extra appointments/care etc that dd attends/needs.

hannahsmummsy · 19/08/2011 20:14

i know , is suppose getting dla , is a reconition of how ill shes been . i guess i feel bad because the school is in denial

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hannahsmummsy · 19/08/2011 23:15

i should feel happy , I can save for her future , i guess its just that I thought she may grow out of her probs , but then she started getting back and knee pains last year. lea have taken away her taxi , but kindly provided a more flexible bus pass than other kid in our area get , i will prob end up having to take her on bus , so will use her dla to get myself a 3 month bus pass i think x

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Marne · 20/08/2011 08:56

Don't feel guilty, we get dla for both dd's but dd1 appears NT to most people (she has AS and hypermobility), her DLA is up for renewal after christmas and i have a feeling we wont get it again Sad, dd1 does have era needs (she has meltdowns and wont walk far as well as the anxiety issues) but most of these problems are only visable at home.

chinnywinston · 20/08/2011 09:49

I wouldn't feel guilty, we receive it for both DS with mobility issues. DLA is usually only given after contact with a doctor/ other health professional. It wouldn't have been awarded if you were not entitled.

Davros · 21/08/2011 14:29

As long as you feel you were honest then its THEIR decision. A bit of advice too, its much better to get into the system and establish the need now, I have many friends who apply for DLA for their child when they are in their teens or technically adult at 16 and it can be very hard. Its much harder to argue that they have been manageable and not harder work for many years but then suddenly its changed iyswim.

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