Hi, yes, I think that's standard. I found some good parenting books were the Social baby and toddler (which are far too young for you of course) and one called The Heart of Parenting, which is an emotional intelligence book that I thought was fascinating.
Also Sue Gerhardt's Why Love Matters. And books about dyspraxia really helped. I am very, very lucky in that ds is 'easy' in that he is very gentle and wouldn't have either the passion or the physical co-ordination to break things! I think your ds might like to talk about feelings and the Heart of Parenting book has lots of ideas for that. I have always found ds likes that. Even now he likes to identify feelings (tonight he said, 'you aren't angry, are you mummy? You are just illustrated in your mind'! - he mean't 'irritated'!)
It can help to have names for feelings I think. Makes them feel less overwhelming.