Long story really and have a thread setting out details here.
Basically, dd just does not process what is said to her. She can ask the same question in rapid succession 3 or 4 times and only when it is pointed out to her that it has already been answered will she stop and think about what the answer might be. She does not really "get" what goes on in TV programmes and films. At school, her work shows that she clearly does not understand tasks given to the class as a whole (she will only complete a fraction of the work required and often do something slightly different). She appears to get by most of the time by copying other children.
She has just finished Yr 2 and will be 7 in Aug. Her SATs results are average (2as and 2b). Her teacher says that there is a problem and suggested we talk to the GP as otherwise, because her attainment is average, the school will not do anything.
I wrote a long letter to the GP and went to see him last week. He said that it sounds like she is autistic except her social interation is generally good (although she is very shy). This knocked me for six - not what I expected at all. He has referred us to a pediatrician.
Dd will not engage with the pediatrician at all. She is shy around adults she does not know and will absolutely and totally refuse to acknowledge that there is any kind of problem. She will sit in silence the whole time.
My question to you is how to deal with this. What should I say to the dr? What outcomes can I expect from the referral? The mother of her best friend is a consultant pediatrician and I wondered if it would be worth telling anyone we saw to ask her about dd's social interaction if they need to know about it as she sees her in a normal environment?