To be upset about people's FB status boasting about their clever, intelligent NT kids and what miracle they performed that day.

[pigletmania]

Well that's it. I am so fed up about my FB friends posting about how wonderful and intelligent their NT kids are, how good their pre school report was, how their learning to write their letters, and count to 100. How wonderful they did at sports day, complete with pictures.

While I am ranting, I am also fed up of these FB friends telliing us in their stati how they are fed up with their pre schoolers talking all the time, and the questions that they ask. If only my dd aged 4 (possible ASD, speech and lang delay) can do those things. Don't they realise how lucky they are and how they take it for granted that their kids can do those wonderful things.

People just don't think though, do they? I mean, they aren't setting out to hurt us, they just don't realise how it impacts.

One of my very good friends was talking about her DD, who had been struggling to read in the past, but had greatly improved. Deep into a conversation about her DD's progress, she said 'I don't mind if she is reading at the right level for her, but I don't want school to keep her on a really rubbish reading level if she can do better....errr I mean rubbish for her...umm'

I howled with laughter and said 'wot u mean like wot my DD might never get to, like??'

She was mortified, I was enjoying myself. She meant no harm, she just hadn't thought of it in relation to DD1, who is 5.7 and still thinks every word beginning with 'M' is her name.

I rarely if ever talk about my children on FB. The older ones are on it anyway, but my youngest is 8 and not on there. I don't know who is looking at my profile even though I have set it friends only, accounts can and have been hacked.

I have friends who post about how well their kids are doing, that's fine for them. My youngest is doing really well at school and I'm proud of him. Then again when SN son was at school I was just as proud of him when he learnt something new, and I used to tell all my friends about that (no FB when he was in school lol). Strange how times have changed. I'd boast about him but not the others. The others understood that their achievements whilst I thought they were brilliant came easier to them than to sn son., and they understood why I boasted about them. My friends who didn't have sn children understood this as well, and were supportive of me.

If you feel friends are putting your son down then drop then, you don't need people like that in your life. It's stressful enough without having negative people around you. don't forget you can always block these people on FB.

I have to keep DS2's SNs separate from FB. I don't mention SNs AT ALL on FB. Mainly because my sister is an insufferable know-it-all and knows everything about everything IYSWIM and the one and only time we explained to her about DS2's special needs (while on phone), she IMMEDIATELY launched into 20 minutes of drivel about how much she knew about it, and how we need to change his diet, and how we need to contact an acquaintance of hers because as an adult with autism this woman obviously knows everything there is to know about it. Um, no.....don't think so! I ended up telling her that we had things under control, and that DS2 has a wonderful support system and brilliant paed and that we didn't need any further input on it. A much more polite response than the one we were thinking!

But to avoid this type of thing from her in future, we don't mention it at all. We're not ashamed of his SNs or hiding it or anything. I just don't want to be put in a position where I have to tell family members to piss off on FB.

I know what you mean pigletmania. Some people I am "friends" with put photos of their children's toys in certain arrangements up, showing how imaginative they are.
At the moment, we are in the midst of an "is he, isn't he?" discussion, that has been going on a looooooooooooooong time, about DS (3.5) and if he is on the autistic spectrum or not. One of the major things is his lack of imaginative play. When I see these people's photos and comments I just want to punch them!
But, on the other hand, I put up a boasty status about DS as he has started to spell words with his magnetic letters that he loves to play with. This is because in the throes of me worrying so much about him, I sometimes can't see the positives in him, which is my problem.