Psychologist advice plz

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Hi all dd2 has been having sessions with a pysch. Of course she behaves impeccably with the pysch and pysch thinks she's 'adorable'! Pysch videoed us playing together and has basically told me how to play better with her! Anyway pysch has been told all te things that dd2 finds difficult like dressing, nappy changes, bus rides, busy environments, etc pysch has said she will accompany us on a bus and be then when I change her to witness dd behaviour however my instinct is telling me that dd will guess something is 'up' and behaviour differently like she did when they videoed us playing.

This morning dd had an almighty hitting kicking tantrum that lasted over 30 mins just getting her dressed and I wondered if it's worth me secretly filming her at home to show pysch her behaviour? What do you think??

Some background - paed referring her to another paed who specialises in behaviour to check she's not autistic. Pysch says no way she's not autistic says she's too 'switched on'!! SALT didnt comment when I asked her but said she has probable verbal dyspraxia. And she has sensory integration issues.

The psychologist will be doing a detailed assessment of your daughter in all environments. If she is autistic she will show difficulties wherever she is which will be evident when the psychologist is observing her. I don't think it could harm you filming her at home - I'm sure any information the psych can get will be helpful and informative. It sounds like she has difficulties with transitions and so any advice and insights she can give you (including how to play together)should be helpful in managing these and in enhancing the communication and attachment between the two of you. If she has sensory integration difficulties an occupational therapist may be helpful.

Thanks guys I will record her I think.
Zzzz it's strange but when dd1 was dx with ADHD I was never once made to feel like it was my fault or my parenting to blame. But with dd2 everything said seems full of innuendo like if I did this better or that better, drives me mad!!

Do you think that may be because there are more parenting courses around now than there were when you had your DS/DD1?

I attended a conference last week re parenting/parenting courses and the impression I got was that there is a great deal of emphasis on 'catching' parents early in order to help prevent social/educational/welfare/criminal issues further down the line.

As the issues presented by SEN children may sometimes overlap with similar issues created by 'poor' parenting. I think parenting is the initial cheap and easy option to look at make you doubt your parenting abilities before putting in/looking at more beneficial options if you insist on being persistent

Don't think so as dd1 and dd2 going through dx procedure at same time just for different things and are different ages, but it's a possibility for others yes

I would film the behaviour it gives them more to go on, I have even taken recordings of the DSs coughing to the GP as it gives them more to go on (younger DSs are asthmatic) in working out if just their asthma playing up or something different.

Regarding the travelling on a bus and your DD not playing up if she feels something is different, I don't know how old your DD is, but DS1 who has AS is 9 now and even now throws tantrums on the way home from school if we don't go 'his' route. He will still throw those tantrums even if he has friends walking home with him as it is that much of a problem to him, so I would imagine that if your DD is struggling due to sensory issues on a bus she wouldn't be able to control them even if she did notice/recognise the psych sat at the back of the bus.