I am so shocked-DS just had a CELF test

[bunnyhops]

Have just been told by DH he had spoken to our ds's spech therapist and she did a CELF test with him and she is now saying his understanding is good for his age but he has selective muteness.He will probably have to go to a special school in May on a permanant basis.
He was 4 in August.

I am sitting here typing this in tears as I feel so useless as a mother and although I know his speech was delayed I did'nt think it was this serious. Dh just told me this and is still at work and says we need to discuss this tonight as we live 15 miles away from the school she is recomending and I don't drive.I also have a dd who is 2 and a half and has been referred for speech therapy also.

Just in shock and wondered what I did wrong?

If anyone else has been in this situation I would welcome your advice.

Sorry, haven't read all of this but it seems a bit drastic to be saying he must go to special school for CHOOSING not to speak??? There are alternatives surely? Not that I'm saying it isn't the right choice, just not the only choice.

Davros-Not quite sure what their thinking is on this .Whether they think he needs to go to a special school because of his speech delay or his mutism.Surely their would be something placed in mainstream schools to deal with these problems.It probably all comes down to funding I expect.
Waiting to hear back from the specillist so will have a clearer picture then.
Speaking to DS's teacher today to see what their take on the situation is.

Cheaper for them to keep him in mainstream and Govt policy PLUS you have the right to ask for m/s and I believe, within reason, it must be accommodated. Don't know "proper" rules but if you want him in m/s or at least to try harder with m/s then you will have to be very firm about it.