Ok, so my DD (14) has just managed to start attending trampolining lessons again, after a gap of about three years as she was putting way too much pressure on herself. The coaches weren't exactly helping either
We have now found a much more helpful club and DD does like bouncing. She has ASD and dyspraxia, so it really helps her co-ordination. The head coach is really mindful of how difficult she finds it to follow instructions, join in with other kids etc, and has been wonderful with her.
But, there is a FUN club competition next week, which DD2 (4) is doing and DD1 wants to do it too. But, she is back to putting way too much pressure on herself, and is simply falling apart The coach tells her it doesnt matter if she doesnt do it, if she thinks she wants to do it but then changes her mind, or simply says no now. But, I have explained to coach that that is too many choices for DD, and she is very overwhelmed. After todays session (where a new coach was working with her, and before the head coach could say anything, new coach had DD working on new moves which completely stressed DD out) DD had a major panic attack, shouting, swearing and threatening violence again I understand that she is wound up because she desparately wants to compete, but I am not sure that I shouldn't simply pull her out now, as I really cant cope with another week of this.
I am at an absolute loss as to what to do, and feeling very very helpless
She has had a lot to cope with lately, school trip which only went ahead at last minute with a lot of support provided by a specific teacher who DD has a kind of liking for. Her bedroom is being changed (bed falling apart, same as carpet etc) as now I have DLA for her, I can afford it. I think she is up to plan 55 now on how she wants it. And new school shoes, which is always a trauma.
She is having quiet time in her bedroom now, but I am scared of actually mentioning it to her