showing lottie to amy

[donnaj]

hiya as i didnt hear from you regarding showing that pic of lottie to amy my 13 soon to b 14 i showed her a picture off the ds page really shocked me as she said she might not love her brother/sister if they have downs was very annoyed at her dont know what to do to make things easier for amy to accept her new little sis/bro if it does have ds just get things ok with hubby then she starts grrrrrrrrrr god i must have been bad in my past

sorry, i know i am butting in a bit here..... but your daughter may surprise you once the baby is born.
i bet you anything that even if your baby does have DS that amy will love it to bits! she may not think that way now, because it's a pretty big thing to take in.. but once she meets him/her she will be besotted (as will you all of course!)

thanks star im hoping so i did think it was because of wat her freinds would say and to put it politeely she said i dont give a fook about them but why cant she handle the fact that her sis/bro might have downs at a loss ere

13/14 year old girls often want to pretend they won't want anything to do with the new baby, this can be for a number of reasons, and I think she might just be using the disability as a get out.

Because she's 13. Any change is hard to take. She is battling with lots of different feelings without having to take on board a new baby. The fact that the baby is DS makes it harder - not impossible but harder. Some adults have problems accepting DS. It will take time and patience. She will end up loving her sister but may at first push her away. I think it's only natural.

I was 15 when my Mum had my youngest sis and that was hard to take on board.

Hi Donna

Do you mean showing a pic of my daughter Lottie to your daughter Amy? Sorry not sure if I missed something or have the wrong end of the stick.

I just want to say that I've never met one single individual that wasn't bowled over by Lottie and if there is anything me and/or Lottie can do to ease things slightly, possibly, for you or your DD etc, all you have to do is ask/say.

i met my friends little brother when i was about 13 - a big group of us went to her house and we were all besotted. he was adopted, her mum and dad knew he would have downs when they 'chose' him (sorry that sounds awful but cant think of a better way to put it, few glasses of wine have gone down). he was an absolute delight and im sure your dd wont have a problem when the baby arrives. sorry if none of that made sense, just wanted to let you know of a happy situation, no reason why yours cant be happy too

Hi donna, did a search to see what this thread was about and understand now, sorry not to have been around and seen the original post.

Little facts about Lottie to help Amy understand a bit, exactly the sort of reaction she evokes in people:

• she is stupidly popular at school. pls excuse me saying this, it's nothing other than stating the facts though - all the other children jump up and down and shout her name as i bring her in.

Mum's come over nad say 'my son/daughter never stops talking about Charlotte.

One mum uses Lottie as a way to make her son eat his tea. If her doesn't eat up he won't e allowed to see Lottie!

Children scramble to be near here. They tell me things she has said to them. they just want to be near her.

Friends children, of varying ages, 18 months to 10 years, really do adore her. I'm not just saying it, you have to see it to believe. She's like a magnet, that's the only way I can put it.

I can only talk about Lottie as she's all I know, but I do know that other mums whose children have DS experience similar things.

Children with DS really do have a special something Donna. I don't know what it is, their innocence, their infectious joy, who knows, whatever it is, it's wonderful to be around

Please try not to be angry with Amy. It's the unknown that frightens her and it's natural and it's ok. But I give you my personal guarantee, that if your baby does have DS that will be one spoilt and loved to death child