When will this end?! I feel like I need a bloody iron shield when she's like this!

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Me again!

I've posted quite a lot on here recently but for very different reasons.

DD in the last 30 mins or so has literally only just calmed down from a megga and I mean MEGGA tantrum/meltdown. By the way it started about 2 hours ago.

It started with me disallowing dd to have any sweets and just so you know dp and rather inconsiderate father bought them for her and left them in full view of her just in time for when she got back from school!GREAT!! She didn't know they were specifically for her so I said that they were daddy's. She has a treat of some sort everyday and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. It's usually something like a small chocolate bar or ice lolly. I never give her sweets. It definitely makes a difference to her behaviour, it's not just a coincidence.

Anyway, the point was I said no she couldn't have them, maybe she could have blah blah later if she was good. Straight away I get a slap round the face followed rather swiftly with her pulling both sides of my hair. She's so strong that sometimes I can't get away from her witout her pulling chunks of it out. I don't send her to her room when she's been naughty, I usually have other methods, but today I think I just went back a generation or 2(that's not supposed to offend anyone who does that. Everyone has different parenting methods) and marched her up the stairs, like my mum would have done with me.

She screamed at me to come upstairs and I said not until she'd apologised and calmed down. It was then basically a stand off between the 2 of us. She then started throwing various things down the stairs. Of course it would mostly be things of mine that would be either valuable or breakable......or both!!

After god knows how long of battling she finally said sorry. I feel like i've literally been in a battle. When she snaps she will just launch herself at me and I can see in her eyes that she's getting some kind of rush from doing it. It's not just anger.

When will this stop??!!! I need some kind of back up when she's like this. I could go on, but this has already taken up a lot of your time reading this, so i'll leave it there.

Please any advice on how to tackle hese MONSTER tantrums?

Thanks for reading.

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its realy bad my son had a meldown earler on he has aspergersm and he goes for his 2 year old sister, really worrying and ahrd to cope with

weve all been there to one degree or another and i have had simular in past but DS is getting better he still has big fights with his DB though but i remember him doing the same throwing things down the stairs once SS would tell you to ignore such awful behaviour easier said than done when throwing something valuable down the stairs but gererally this kind of behaviour is best ignored. try and be non confrontational get everything out of the way if you can see one of these occasions comming.
the only other advice i can give is distractions for a lot of unwanted behaviours lastly though have you been o a NAS course for dealing with unwanted behaviours yet nas do them and so do CAMHS contact your local CAMHS office and see if they have an up comming course on different aspects of dealing with DCs with SN especially AS and ASD & PDA
lastly get her asleep and try and relax you cant be expected to never get angry or keep your head in such stressfull situations so be forgiving to your DD and forgive yourself HTH